I met this guy last month over the holidays when we shared a cab. On the night we met, he immediately texted me afterward and there hasn't been a day since when he hasn't texted me. Just a week after we met, we're basically always holed up in his place all the time, cooking, watching movies. He's made me watch Star Wars too. He also asked to spend New Year's with me, and our planned night-out was a disaster because everything was closed. We ended up ringing in the new year in his apartment - me making a makeshift meal, and he kissed me at exactly midnight. After eating, we were watching star wars in bed, him laying on my chest, and he said out of nowhere that he's very content right now because we were watching star wars, he was full, and because I was running my hand through his hair.
My problem is that it's been almost 2 months and it's still not clear what we are. On the first night that we officially went out, I kind of got tipsy but I could have sworn that he asked if I could be his girlfriend. I pretended that I didn't hear, but then he said that he wanted me to be sober when I answered. But he hasn't asked it again since and we've never talked about it.
This month he went back to the States because he needed to arrange some tax forms. He hadn't been there and seen his family in 3 years, but he stayed for all of 3 weeks. I have a history of having Before Sunrise-esque whirlwind romances so I was traumatized already by people leaving. I actually broke down in bed the night before he left but he said he'll be back before I knew it. He also e-mailed me the moment he landed there. On the night when we saw each other again after his return, there was something different. In the dark, he laid on top of me, both of us were clothed, and he slowly kissed my lips, then my nose, then my forehead. And he also ran his fingers through my hair and my cheeks. But he didn't undress me at all.. He'd never done those things before.
I don't know... What does he feel about me?
But whenever I text, arguing about the relationship, he responds right away and we'd have drawn-out arguments. If he really doesn't want anything, why bother?
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Sounds to me like you've got something special, he just really respects you, sounds like a decent guy ! He clearly knows how "traumatized" you are as you've already said and he's just been really respectful, focusing on your emotions instead of just the physical side of things. I think if you want to speed things up a little then speak to him, I'm sure he will understand your confusion.
Im positive he really likes you, really really likes you. If you want anything more to happen next time your in that situation then why don't you make the move to take things further :P
Speak to him, ask him exactly what you've asked us. I don't think you should worry about him not liking you though !1