Okay, I know this is an ancient debate here. But seriously, I think the "nice guys finish last" idea is misinterpreted by a lot of people. Girls like nice guys...they really do! We like someone who is polite, generous, warm, caring and treats us well. Now what we don't like (and what a lot of people confuse as being the nice guy) are guys that are the "yes-man." Typically "nice guys" will go along with whatever you say and won't put up a fight. Say the girl wants to go to a Mexican restaurant and the nice guy hates spicy food... he'll still say "sure, I love Mexican!" Why not instead compromise on something you both like? When nice guys become the yes-man or the I'll-do-whatever-you-want-to-do-man, girls lose interest. Why? Because we want someone who is willing to compromise with us but still maintains their OWN identity, we value that strength that you have. Now if you encounter a girl who isn't willing to compromise on anything, it doesn't mean she doesn't like nice guys. She's just impossible...for anyone lol People, what are your thoughts on this "nice guys finish last" thing?
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Most guys who describe themselves as 'nice guys' are 'yes men'. So its not that guys who are nice finish last. Its that 'Nice Guys' finish last.
They don't need to stop being nice.
But they need to learn to become nice MEN.
Sadly, its actually easier to become a cold a**hole then a decent man. Its easier to just turn off your emotions and treat women like pieces of meat then to be open to caring them but also ignore their BS, to stick up for yourself while still trying to be decent. Not only is that harder, but there aren't many good role models around nowadays, there are more jerk role models.
We take young boys nowadays and actually -raise- them to be "nice guys". They strike out repeatedly and become bitter, and follow the advice to be a jerk (some of them anyway) which actually 'works'.