My boyfriend doesn't call me often or make much effort. He likes seeing me probably mostly for the sex I'm not sure. When I've told him before he should call me more and want to see me more he's told me it freaks him out because I'm trying to control him or he'll say he will but it's almost like he's a child who purposefully goes against what he's been told to do.
Is there anything I can do to make him more interested and step up his game? I'm always the one complaining and asking to see him it's driving me mad. Don't just say finish it I know that's one option but I want other suggestions because when we are togeher things are great but he knows he has me on a plate
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People have different needs. Most guys don't have the need to talk over the phone. Especially just to talk for the sake of talking. That doesn't mean that we don't care. It just means that guys and girls have different needs when it comes to communication, generally speaking.
You also need to take into consideration that just because you want or need him to call you more often doesn't give you the right to demand this of him. Just like he doesn't have the right to demand that you require less communication. Both of you have your own right to need what you need, nobody is wrong. Hopefully you can explain your needs and come to some kind of compromise that work for both of you. But just don't make assumptions that communication every day (or something) is by default how relationships should work just because this might be what you want.
So to answer your question.
You can't make him call more. Sure, you can make ultimatums and threats and such that might make him call a little more. But that will not last very long and eventually it will make the relationship suffer.
I suggest you have a talk, face to face about what you both expect, want and need from your relationship to work.0