he left me saying he didn't love me anymore and that I didn't fit in with his new friends (we went to uni together).
we have had to see one another ervy day for the past 25 years- it has been awkward and he has been cold towards me/ one word answers.. generally stand-offish, so I decided to cemented in my mind why I need to forget about him, and stop loving him... so I Facebooked him
wow... he was actually friendly and talkative! for the first time in 2.5 years. I don't get it... he ended the caht first, but he actually had a decent convo with me
I still love him very much, but I'm not sure where to go from here
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I hate to admit it, but you have the prophecy, and I am inclined to believe what he said. He already stated that he does not love you. As hurtful as it sounds, you really can't be no more direct than that. Just because he talks to you in Facebook, doesn't mean that he is interested, because if he was interested in you he wouldn't be so frigid when you talk in person. Perhaps his being cold is his way of keeping you distant considering you still have interest for 2.5 years after the break up.
As hard as it may appear to be, you need to try and disassociate any feeling you have with him from them, conclude that it's over and there is nothing else there, have that last cry and start to heal. I wouldn't look for other guys until after you have given yourself time to heal. Then when you have gotten him out of your system and you have healed, try looking for someone who can reciprocate your feelings for them back to you.