How to trust your new boyfriend after being hurt in the past! HELP
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Trust your gut. The ex-bf who was the worst to me in terms of physical/emotional abuse was my friend for 6 years, who snatched me up right after I was out of another abusive relationship. I was mad at the last ex, and shared that with the new boyfriend, but he was angry about it. I couldn't let it go, and got very upset when he did small gestures that reminded me of the ex, because I was so scared he was going to control me too. He would do all these little things that bothered me, like being lazy and guilt-tripping me, while asserting he did "so much" for me, like a typical "nice guy."
Guess what-- the new guy was WORSE because he wanted to be the "white knight" and "save" me, only to put me on an imaginary pedestal that led to punishment (silent treatment, etc.) when I fell off of it. He even defended the last bf's actions, saying I wasn't a battered woman because the ex only hurt me 3 times.
So, the lesson here is to trust your gut, and not date anyone for a long time after a bad relationship. You might just go for someone who seems -a little- better in -some- way and it bites you back because he may be a little bad, just as bad, or worse than the previous ex.
And wtf? Why is he asking you that? That's not something to joke about. Of course making out is cheating.0
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