Damn. I was so in love that I was blind as a bat. I gave him 8 months of my precious life. We planned a future together. Really. Then the last 3 months he goes off with my friend. We break up last year.. and I find out tht he's getting married to that whore. I'm sorry but she was my closest friend. she new how much I really looved him. I moved on couple times. or should say tried to.. ut this whole wedding thing doesn't surprise me. it jus cut me deeper inside because there went my two bested people betrayed me. I still feel so hurt I cry and get real bad when I think about it..she showed me the damn pictures..
i need to move on. but I don't kno how
wht am I still hurt its been a year and I'm still hurt as if it were yesturday
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1st, you have my dearest sympathies for the pain you endure.
2ndly, speaking of experience, you won't be able to move on if you kept forcing yourself to "try to move on" it is like wound, they won't heal over a night, yet won't heal based on your well...and no sane person will judge you for still having feelings...because it is an uncontrollable subject.
My advice, take your time in grief...yet never surrender to depression...it is that hard to get point of balance between grieving and not having depression that you need.
I know it is very f***in awefull request, but focus on what you learn from the "sh*t" that happened instead on the pain that resulted from that event...just imagine you got married and suddenly all that was a sham for a secret affair with a person you thought to be best friend...aaah...suddenly your current situation doesn't seems so bad huh?!
Another advice that you might not like it, just cut off communications with both of them for a brief of time...trust me it helps a lot...afraid they will think you're weak? f*** them...you're the most important to yourself and screw what they think.
hmm...what else?... what else?...uh reorganize your time and daily schedule...meaning, establish a super dream to give you a reason to insist on breathing...it can be any selfless dream, like fighting poverty...etc
and then establish a self satisfying dream, like to be a neurosurgeon or a law enforcement...etc.
make more social contact, for example learn to play a musical instrument that you like (music always helps) and participate in charity work (the world is a f***in mess and it need many heroes LIKE YOU to help even with a small deed).
Final warning, you're not expected to forget them, nor forgive them...and future boyfriend shouldn't expect that to, just put their memories in a box and don't look back at it.
I seriously wish you the best of luck and I was honest when I said that I understand what you're going through because I was in a similar shoes before.