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Oh my. First of all, a boyfriend who insults you, belittles you, and is so demeaning to you is not somebody you should be with. I know it is hard to hear, and I know that love can make people blind sometimes, but you have to realize that this guy is terrible to you and doesn't care for you the same way you care for him. Do not be with an abusive guy. I feel sorry for his next girlfriend(s) though.
Forgiveness is good, but you need to know where to draw the line. I would draw the line at abuse. I don't really get it though. Why would he buy the place with you and then end the relationship, asking you to bring the things over? That doesn't make sense? And on top of that, he tricked you into bringing his stuff over for him? I think he is too controlling and used to getting his own ways. It would be wise to stay away from him.
People should be understanding and tolerant of mistakes and different personalities. And your boyfriend isn't like that. He should not have brought his mother into the picture. His mother and his physical, mental, and verbal abuse most likely lowered your self-esteem. So you don't feel happy and content and what they say to you just makes you feel worse. You're 20. He's 36. You're right to be inexperienced. I don't know why he is taking his standards at 36 and telling you to grow up, when you're like half his age. That is really mean.
Be with other guys. Be with people that are more likely to respect you and be considerate. The problem is that you both bought the house, and I'm guessing that he also has the keys. I don't know what to do in this case. See if you can move out of the house. See a counselor. Get out before he gets back (if you can). It isn't going to make you happy if he is back. You have every right to be with who you want to be, and he has no say over that.4
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