We broke up 5 months ago, talking in between . Would this be a weird request to just hang out, catch up, and just tell him that he really impacted my life and I'm grateful for that?
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I'd feel fine with it, as long as I know beforehand what the limitations are.
It's a perfectly normal request to want to catch up with an ex and get some closure, especially if you've maintained friendly or at least civil contact since the break-up.
I think it's important that when you do ask him, you make it clear that it's a completely platonic chat. Going up to him in the hallway and saying, "Hey, can I talk to you? I'd really like to hang out with you one last time," might send him the wrong message.
In his place, I'd be worried that accepting that invitation would be tantamount to wasting 3 hours of my life on a sob story about how we could work it out if we tried, some kind of last-ditch attempt to rekindle the flame before college.
Therefore, it's in your best interest to be as specific as possible when you make that request. Tell him that you want to have a chat over coffee before you leave for college and catch up, touch base, and say farewell. That way, he'll understand that you mean to say goodbye and that you don't want anything more than that.
This can also be accomplished with humor, like, "Hey, let's meet up before we go our separate ways to college. I just wanna make sure you know the dangers of unprotected sex - there's lots of women (and men) who are gonna be after you on campus, so you can have the pack of condoms I got signed by Ron Jeremy for good luck."
In any case, it would be best to keep it light and relaxed.0