So basically me and my boyfriend have broke up 3 times over the past his past. I was jealous and insercure and I pushed him away and I never ment it, said some horrible things like 'you f***ing bastard'. He forgave me one last time which I was so greatful he did! but he's so distant since it, he barely says he loves me and avoids coming to see me because it takes 'to long' any other time he'd jump at the fact he could come see me! Its really hurting because I'm now the one who asks him to go out, to phone me, to Skype and its like he doesn't wanna be with me? I've confronted him about it and he says 'you pushed me away Megan and I wanna believe youve changed but I cant, it takes time even if you don't like it.' He doesn't care when I cry or when I'm upset, he just argues back.
Is this just the recovery stage or has he simply had enough? Should I break up with him for the best or give him time to heal like he says? I'm 15 by the way and he's 17 (dont judge that) but he's a lot more mature than me so I tend to cause pathetic arguments
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Your words stabbed him. He may be 17 but to hear someone you care about call you a f***ing bastard rips your heart out. For whatever reason he hasn't broke things off cleanly like he should but his heart just isn't in it. You burned up your chance when you said what you said and now you've got to live with it.
Since he doesn't seem to know what to do, you need to take the bull by the horns and do the right thing. Break up with him. Don't be nasty, don't say mean things, just be clear and firm "I don't see any future in this relationship. We shouldn't see each other anymore. I'm sorry if this hurts your feelings but I believe it would be best for both of us." Keep your distance for a few months and then maybe call to see how he's doing. If he's healed then maybe he'll be warm towards you. If not then at least you've done the right thing by giving him his freedom.
Best of luck to you, I wish things were different but you sound mature enough to hear the truth.1
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