i realise we all have positives and flaws./ to be confident i need to focus on my positives. but when im surrounded by people or am in public i always feel like my flaws are showing through. how do you stay cool with yourself.
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I've only recently started to be more confident, so I don't really know if I qualify.
For me, though, there was a moment in which everything fell back in place. Now, I'll try and tell you how I did it, just for you to see if you can use some tidbits.
It all started the moment I started getting rid of my addictions, about 6 months ago. Porn, gaming, Fanfiction; I was admittedly addicted to a lot of stuff (though no drugs, alcohol or smoking, luckily for me). And it was slowly draining me and killing me. Now, I know I think a little bit faster than most people. This is not to brag, but to tell you that the process may not always be this fast. For me it went - and still goes - at lightning speed. I started to really get into philosophy, and to have it change me in ways I couldn't even have fathomed before.
Long story short, here is the trick.
Recognize what, in your life, is "bad", and try to cut it. However small your success may be, it will still give you the strength to look other people in the eye, because you know you're improving yourself.
The moment you can look people in the eye, stop thinking about yourself. As in, at all. And start asking about others. What makes them tick, what their dreams are, and even random fun facts from them. You'll find yourself enjoying life lots more. And you'll look everyone in the eye while doing it.
You'll never be perfect. By yourself. :)0