I asked this question before but got no replys😓 so I'm rewriting in, hoping the question is more interesting enough to get answered.
My boyfriend doesn't seem to have any emotions. He's not compassionate, affectionate, and when his favorite uncle passed away, he couldn't even shed a tear. He said he felt like something was wrong with himself. I do believe it's because as a child he wasn't shown any affection. His grandmother took care of all of her grandchildren and since he was one of the eldest he kinda did what he wanted. At age 12, he literally made his own decisions. For Christ sake, he dropped out of school in 7th grade. I think his past is catching up to him. I thought maybe I can try to teach him to be compassionate and show lots of love but he's 29, I don't know if it's possible anymore.
I love him a lot but sometimes I feel like even in his past relationships, since he's been hurt, I feel like he's scared to give me love. He said I'm everything he ever wanted but he doesn't act like it. I tried talking to him but he said before he doesn't know what to do. It's just hard to show emotion.
My biggest fear is that one day I'll give up and move on because he seems to not show emotion towards me. I'll walk away and he won't care enough to try and keep me. He'll just let me leave.
Do do you think there's anything I can do?
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This sounds a lot like my ex... he was an only child so he basically did whatever he wanted and he could do no wrong. He got into a lot of trouble as a teen and did some really crazy sh*t that got him sent to boot camp for 2 years so he couldn't graduate like a normal kid.. his dad was abusive with him and his parents were self centered. I think this affected him pretty bad. I fell in love with him because we had so many things in common, same music, same dress style, same lifestyle, same friends. He was much older but we felt an instant connection and I moved in with him about 2 months later.. we had an amazing relationship things went so well at first but he caught a case and he was different after, like colder.. I have a lot of love for the guy always did but I think I was trying to "save him" and it was out of my control. He has things he needs to address and until then he's not ready for me but I'm still here for him and will be waiting when he is. I realize I met him for a reason and he's helped me in many ways. So I'm still there. I know he's sad but tells me everyday that his heart is mine and is working on things because he can't lose me. He has a tattoo of my name and always tells me how much I mean to him. I think if you love him stick around... eventually he'll come around. Also, remember that guys won't always be 100% perfect that is like winning a lottery ticket so appreciate him for his good qualities and know that maybe that's just his personality... Don't forget love conquers all so if he's worth it, stay true to him1