i never have any luck with the women, never been on a date, always getting used, never had sex, never been in a relationship, tried online dating and never had anything back nor intrest but have had black friends and white frinds have loads of sucess I've also had a couple of Asian mates too that have also had nothing back so i know it ent just me and I've actaully given up and think enough is enough somethings ent ment to be. it is what it is!
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When it comes to online dating, i've come to the conclusion that it should only be your secondary source for finding women. Like, its a side dish that you sometimes pick at every now and then, but it shouldn't be ones primary source for finding women, unless you live in special circumstances where its the only thing you can do (ex. you're such a busy person in your normal day, that you rarely have time to go out and meet new people). The problem with online dating for men is that online, the ego's of most women is artificially boosted. This boost is based on no real merit/achievement on their part, but its so high due to the number of thirsty guys that boost it. "You're a 10/10 babe!" (when she's really a 6). "You're so smart hun!" (When she's really dumb as bricks). You get your ego stroked and buttered enough, you too may start seeing yourself as the first prize that which should be fought for by men in a gladiator arena. It's because of this that guys who are actually pretty decent (at least on paper) can't get any attention from women online because the girls are either flooded with messages, or they see you and think they can catch better, when in reality.. the only reason they themselves went online in the first place is because they couldn't catch anything to begin with.
Now on to your question. the problem isn't that you're Asian. The problem is that you lack confidence. You need to go out into the real world and put yourself out there. In contrast to what goes on online, offline, girls are actually approached a lot less than you may think. Take a look at some old questions on here for example, and you'll see that a lot of women actually get approached either infrequently or not at all. The thing is, a lot of the thirsty guys who are brave enough to be thirsty online, aren't brave enough to be thirsty in real life. So this creates a sort of two-tiered threshold system, based on risk/reward. The same girl who might ignore you online for messaging her, may be totally enamoured by you trying to approach her directly and with confidence in real life. Since she hardly gets approached in real life, the threshold to impress her at a bar is lower than it is when she's sitting in front of her laptop. There's a higher risk, but also a higher reward.1
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