Do you think men can be content with being "just friends" with women? Especially if they find them attractive?
Feel free to share personal experiences and why you think "yes" or "no".
- Yes, men can be "just friends" with attractive womenVote A
- No, they can't be just friends with attractive womenVote B
- They can if she's uglyVote C
- Men can never be friends with women. period.Vote D
Most Helpful Guy
Casual acquaintances is one thing, close friends is another.
Here's the issue:
Women bond easily with their female friends and openly share their emotions with them. Guys rarely do this with other guys, we associate that closeness with romantic interests. So when a guy and girl become emotionally close, if the guy finds the girl attractive, he's most likely going to fall in love.
Even if he's not attracted to her, or if he thinks she's attractive but not a viable girlfriend, there's still the problem of guys normally only opening up to one girl. The problem here is that once the girl gets involved with a different guy romantically, he's going to be occupying her mental bandwidth in terms of the emotional connection, filling the role that the platonic friend was filling before, because she's also the new guy's only emotional outlet.
When that happens, one of two things generally happens: 1) the platonic friend becomes an outlet for her to bitch about her boyfriend to and she stops sharing the good parts with him because she's sharing it with her new boyfriend. 2) she becomes completely preoccupied and just drops out of the friend's life.
In either case, this isn't such a big deal when girls have girlfriends fall in love, because they have other friends to connect with emotionally and the boyfriend complaining is a topic in common. But when it happens to a guy friend, he's losing that close emotional connection that he doesn't have elsewhere, so it's a big loss for him and he loses interest in her as a friend.
The same kind of thing also happens if the guy gets a girlfriend. The girlfriend becomes his emotional outlet and his interest in the platonic friend fades into the background.
So no, it doesn't really work, at least not long term. Close friendships between guys and gals almost always die as soon as one of them gets into a relationship.1
Most Helpful Girl
My answer is, "It depends".
If either person is either remotely attractive one of the two people will catch feelings for the other person.
It's only natural.1