My neighbor/ Mom's friend is a wonderful woman but suffers from depression. And I found out the main reason why is because of the passing of her parents. After she finished telling me this, I just didn't know what to say. I wanted to make her calm (she was close to tears, as was I, but I held my breath). I ended up not saying anything because what do you say to a person who is suffering because her parents are not with her.
So so my question is, what would you have said?
Most Helpful Guy
Well, a lot of times silence says a lot and really there's not much you can say that will help. Really, think about it for a second. Someone has lost people that have been close and important to them their entire life. What can one say in a few moments that will replace that? Sometimes it's enough to just listen.1
Most Helpful Girl
You don't have to say a lot, but make it clear you are there for her any way she needs it and care about her. Hug her, let her cry, cry with her, remember her parents with her... there is no correct thing to say but be careful not to resort to generic phrases without heart. She's in serious grief and only time will help her heal and learn to live with the void. Check in on her, even if she doesn't respond... she will see all yours and your mothers' messages and remember that you remembered her. The best thing to do is show you care in whatever way you can think of. I lost my mother last year to a terminal illness and my dad is fighting an advanced stage cancer right now. I'm 26. My youngest sister is barely 18. I know what it feels like, and what hurts the most is silence of friends. I don't doubt their sincerity, but what good is caring about them in your head if you never express it to them? It's okay to express in your own way as long as you do it. Even saying you're speechless and wish you knew what to do shows you thought about it and are genuinely heartfully there for her. Hope that helps1