So i invited a friend from tinder to my apartment. We have known each other for about a year or so and we have been hanging out. We went to a bar and had some drinks. I pretended to drink because i don't drink but I didn't want to seem lame so when he wasn't looking I poured the drink out. Anyways... we went back to my apartment and started kissing and making out. I notice that he is getting really tense and sort of forceful so I pull away. I told him what was wrong and he was like "I will try to be more gentle". We start kissing again and he starts getting forceful again and I couldnt move so I try to push him away with my hands. He grabs my hands so i can't move and i am freaking out in my mind because i don't know what to do. He kept assaulting me and trying to take my clothes off. Long story short my brother came to my apartment out of nowhere and heard me screaming and got the guy off me and kicked him out. I was freaking out because that never happened to me before. Was it my fault? Did i lead him on?
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You absolutely did not lead him on. You told him to slow down when things progressed past kissing. You gave him a boundary. He did not respect it. That's not you fault. At all. It was 110% HIS choice and HIS fault.
Have you talked to a sexual assault counselor about this at all?0