I find myself with a lot of stress and burdens to carry due to family problems. It makes my life really difficult to live. I have a abusive father who is driving me and my mom into the ground with debt. I struggle to cope with all the fighting, tension and unhappiness. I'm working 9am-7pm shifts most days to make some money for myself and coming home to a unhappy place makes me sick to my stomach. I am severely depressed and unable to enjoy anything due to the trauma I have from living this way since I was a little girl. It just seems to be at its absolute worst right now.
I'm sure I'm not the only one going through times like this. Some people even have it worse on here. I would love to know what techniques everyone on here has to help manage really difficult circumstances. It can be anything. Even if it's just listening to a specific song or doing something random. I'd love to know cause maybe it will help me and others as well. Please share. It would be greatly appreciated xx
Most Helpful Guy
To manage external stress you have to either remove yourself from the situation or at least have a plan to do so. In your situation you have to realize that you cannot and will not be able to change the dynamic with your parents. I see these suggestions as a way to start to deal with your situation:
!) Have a plan to move. This will help focus your negative energy into a positive outcome.
2) Stop trying to "help" or "save" anything and anyone. You are no good to anyone if you are the one drowning.
3) Go to the gym. The best way to manage stress is to beat it out of your system.
4) Find positive people to spend quality time with. Go to a movie, have a drink, dinner, whatever. Get out of the house and away from the negative energy.
5) Talk to people who will listen. .2
Most Helpful Girl
I did not have to go through this family trouble because of traditional family rules at home but then I had friend with abusive father who used to mostly stay at my home and with my family just so she can relax. I remember her being scared to go home because her father would hit her or mother would scold her for not doing house work of cooking and cleaning.
I remember she linked reading fairy tales on the terrace of my house or just sit on the swings in the garden, have tea or walk alone or either with me in silence.