Put yourself in this situation. If you were my father, and you have raised me all my life. (My mom died when I was 1). (I am black and so are you). My father is big on black politics and all of that. You have had bad experiences with white people for a while. You were spat on, hit with a rock, teased, etcc... White men have always rubbed you the wrong way. Now, my best guy friend is white and he JUST asked me to be his girlfriend. If i said, "yes" would it be disrespectful considering your past with these groups of people?
I love my dad. He's done everything for me. He could've just left me with some random family member but he chose to care for me. I want to see what you think before I reply to him and before I talk to my dad about it.
Most Helpful Guy
in my opinion your father doesn't get to pick your partners. But your white guy friend is going to have to win him over by showing that he can be happy and comfortable and respectful around your father and the rest of your family.
Be sure to tell your dad what you wrote in the second paragraph, and ask your friend if he can really do what he needs to do. If he's serious about you, he needs to think about whether he's ready to raise mixed-race children.0
Most Helpful Girl
I don't think it would be disrespectful. In the same sense that not all black people are thugs, not all white people are racist assholes - your best friend's not, right? If you like him and see true potential in him, then I think you owe it to yourself to continue things and see how they go.
Hopefully your father would warm up to it after getting to know the guy and seeing how he treats you.
by the way, I'm really sorry to hear about the blatant racism you've experienced. :/ No one deserves that.0