I am 24 and turning 25 in 2 mos. I think I am pregnant. I am not yet ready to be a mom and I am not yet married. I am afraid people will judge me because of this. I am not financially stable but I have a job as an elementary school teacher and my salary is not enough to support a baby. Do you think I am still too young or this is just a normal age get prego?
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It's awkward because the biological clock has your chances for pregnancy diminishing as you head towards 30s and onward (though some women can have children really late -- I have a friend in her 40s who just recently had a child, though it took her three years of trying with her husband and multiple hospital trips where she had to do something with her ovaries).
Yet I think you have to be willing to kind of lose that carefree lifestyle completely (same goes for marriage). Shared income, responsibilities for people other than yourself, etc. It'll generally ruin your kind of single life, and your life will become centered around kids and work (if you work).
I'm totally ready for it in my mid-30s but I realize after spending extended amounts of time with my friends who have kids, and babysitting them voluntarily, that this is a really hard job to do 24/7, and pretty much the doom of any carefree youthfulness you hope to have.
It's okay when you're ready to say goodbye for the most part to partying, shopping for whatever you want, eating wherever you want, etc. The right timing to me lifestyle-wise to get married, and even more so to have kids, is when you're ready to sacrifice all such freedoms.
But biologically, pregnancy favors an earlier age.0