If we agree that physical attraction *is* important (and I believe it is), why do some people tell the physically unattractive paliatives like, "well looks fade" when attempting to encourage them to get with people they don't find physically attractive?
I have a friend with FAS, and people are (stupidly in my opinion) telling him this all the time.
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They say it to try and lessen the importance of physical appearance and to try and make the other person feel better.
I think Louis Ck made a good point
"if you feel bad for them you can go and fuck them and solve the problem"
But obviously nobody wants to do that, instead they will give them an empty cliche like "beauty fades" "inner beauty is why truly matters" or "theres someone out there for everyone/everyone is attractive to someone". They feel like they are helping but in most cases I dont think those are anything more than nice words. Id even argue that those cliches benefit the person saying them more than they do the recipient. After the quick bliss of the nice words passes, the other person is still lonely while the person who told them the cliche feels good for thinking theyve made a positive impact in the other persons life.
The last phrase is especially funny to me because I translate it as "Someone will find you attractive, not me or anyone I know personally, but someone will find you attractive. Now go find them".0
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