As it turns when he asked my dadd for his blessing, my dad gave him a prenup and said his blessing was conditional to both of us signing it.
I wouldn't have thought of having one since neither of us has money to speak of. My parents have money, it's true but I wouldn't get that until they're both dead AND inheritances are excluded from distribution, as is all preexisting assets. So I don't really see the point?
Whatever money we make in our marriage would bee fair to share 50/50, right? Because we got it together. I don't see the point of prenups in general
And anyway I don't want to start my marriage planning for how it ends, you can't go in with an attitude like that.
But my fiance now dead set on pleasing my dad and signing prenup. I don't really get why and I don't want to
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Your dad should really have talked to you first before presenting the pre-nup. It's not his decision what you do in your marriage, that should be between you and your fiancee.
I'm not really sure how the laws work where you live. But I can certainly understand why he is concerned. Divorces are rough, break ups in general are rough, but when you are married there are so many other things you must consider.
Times may be great right now. But what happens if in 5 years time, things break down. One of you has an affair (hopefully not though!) and there are bitter feelings?
You can't guarantee that things will be split 50/50. Besides, what if you have a really nice expensive car, and then a more economical car? How do you decide who gets what? Also, what about the house? What if you guys have kids and then the house holds sentimental value? It can be hard to think about these things. I think your dad was just looking out for your best interests. But I still think he should talk to you first.
I can certainly see why your fiancee was eager to sign. He wants to marry you and wants to also please his father in law to be. I definitely think you both should sit down and have a talk about it.
I know what you are saying about not wanting to start a marriage like that. But really you never know how things can turn. He could be the love of your life today and then 5 years down the line everything changes. You just never know.
But it's up to both of you to decide what you want to do.1