Me and my ex broke up a few weeks ago. Our relationship lasted 2 1/2 years. We didn't live together and We were not engaged (part of the break up). I broke up with him for so many reasons. He doesn't want to further commit on living together or getting engaged. I understand we are young (He's 22 and I'm 21) but Damn it I want to be married later on and have kids. He doesn't want that at all; he just stringed me along. He just wants to smoke his weed and "chill". In the beginning of our relationship we use to go on dates and spend a lot of time together. The last year and a half of our relationship we never went on a date and we didn't even celebrate our 2 year anniversary. I wanted to celebrate it but he made an excuse about class and just didn't want to. Now that we broke up I just want him to fight for me to take him back. I want him to know what he lost and try to get me back. I want him to try to win my love back. He just wants hook ups with me and what not, which is strange because we were each others first. My question is, what do I do?
Most Helpful Guy
Move on. I was in a four or five year relationship around your age. She was in a hurry to marry and have kids, I didn't know if I ever wanted that, and to this day I don't want kids. It hurts to break away from your first "adult" relationship, but sometimes you can love someone and not still be totally wrong for each other. If I had "fought for her" or changed and gone along with what she wanted, I'd be miserable right now, and she probably would end up miserable too. You just need to wash your hands of it and realize you weren't a match, in my opinion.0
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Most Helpful Girl
As others have already mentioned, you should just move on from this situation.
From what you've said about the last year and a half of your relationship, he's not going to fight to keep something he doesn't appear to have much interest in. You want him to try and win your love back, but I'm not so sure he's got any love for you.
He wants just hookups to satisfy his sexual appetite, minus the responsibilities of a relationship. Sounds like a relationship, ending in marriage and settling down in general, is what you're looking for.
Huge conflict of interest; let him go.0