We're not in an official relationship or anything, but we're really close and may end up dating soon. So, he is part of a local gang or whatever and he has gotten into a lot of trouble. He's been in and out of the juvenile detention center for assaulting a cop, drugs, and "attempted murder." and he was on house arrest, once but he just turned 18 and I think he's old enough to go to regular jail but he was on probation but he violated that probation because he brought a gun to school on the last day and someone told on him and now they're looking for him or whatever. I just feel like I can get in trouble for being associated with him.
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Most Helpful Guy
Yes you can if you are harboring him while he is supposedly on the Run. It will most likely be something they try to throw in your face may even hold you in the holding cells max 72 hours but after that if they can't charge you with anything you are free to go no restrictions or probation, or bail, free as a bird in the sky.
Now, if you guys do get serious and lets say he starts making lots of money and you two buy a house, car, pay all your bills and such, and he gets arrested, they may be able to charge you with Living off the Avails, which is living off of criminal monetary gain. That charge can hold up to 7 years, they will threaten it very hard in order to get you to "Rat" on your man, but no worries there, a good lawyer could slap that charge up. But you will automatically lose if you are living together, and every single document that ties you to the house, car, bills etc is in your name, well, you will get charged and convicted I've seen it happen, more times than not the girl snitches on the man and then the girl gets house arrest probation etc. But some stay solid and get anywhere from 2-7 years max depending on the amount everything is worth, and how much you have spent.
So consider this information very carefully ok?
Also, worst possible scenario, let's say you guys are out for dinner, and some guy makes a pass at you or a bad remark at your man, and he assaults, or murders that person. Depending on where you live, like in the USA, you will be charged wth the same charges as him, because you were they with him at the scene when he committed the crime.
So there are many factors you must consider when going out with a man in a gang or who is just a criminal.
Now, I just want to inform you how I know this information...
I have been in and out of jail from the age of 12 to 25, I am now 29, the last four years of my life have been the most legitimate and successful part of my life, but I have a long track record. Drug Possession, Illegal Weapon Possession, Firearms Possession, Firearm Discharge in a Public Space, and Attempted Murder got me Deported from the US when I was 16 after 2 years in Juvie. When I got to Canada I started doing the same thing I was doing down there. When I was 18 years old I got charged with Possession of a Controlled Substance Section 1 times 2, (Crack Cocaine); and Gun Possession. I was given 6 1/2 years, from 18 to 25 in jail, No Jokes... So believe me when I say just follow the right path no matter how hot or popular he is0
Most Helpful Girl
Uh, yeah, I grew up in gangland and I can tell you what's gna happen if you go this route.
Are you ready to DIE if you break up with yr beloved gangbanger boy?
Yeah, I said die.
No longer alive.
If you break up with a gangster, it's gna be pretty much assumed that yr a snitch. Just assumed.
You know how gangs deal with snitches, right?
If yr gna be stupid and go that route anyway -- hey, I was yr age once, too -- DO NOT let yr "boyfriend" know where you live, EVER.
You come to him, or you meet him in neutral places, period.
Again, you need a viable exit plan, because it's a very real possibility that people will try to kill you if you break up.
Also -- Yr gangbanger boy will probably try to knock you up.
Gna try to get you pregnant, pretty much right from day one.
See, in most gangs, having babies is a status thing. It's also one of the only ways for gangsters to shirk the call of duty, and get their feet off the pavement, without losing face.
In other words, "baby / baby mama needs me" will actually go farther than you think, in terms of being "down" or not having to pound the street quite as much, especially for a younger dude.
(And don't be stupid and think yr the only one -- having babies by MORE women, is even MORE of a status thing.)
So, if that's what you want -- having to watch yr back, knowing that people will want to kill you if you break up, and being one of someone's many babymamas -- then...
go for it!
Oh, and, in response to yr original question --
If you have to ask questions like this, then, you probably don't have a super finely-tuned sense of the street life.
That means those boys WILL take advantage of you. Including things like planting bundles of drugs on yr person, or in yr bag/purse, or in yr car (when you get a car). Can you go to jail for that? Yes you can, hon. Yes you can.
Don't be stupid.1