It never fails to surprise me how after the child finishes University/starts earning/is independent, the parents almost stop behaving as though the child is THEIRS.
Just simple stuff. Like when you're young, the parents can yell at the kids saying clean your room, because the child is young and the parents have the authority to do that.
But when they're older, the parents just talk shit about their OWN CHILD or turn their backs on them, it's so weird!
Like when a child is young the parents are concerned over the smallest of things because they don't want to hurt that child and they'll remember their first day of kindergarten etc. and treat them with love. And when they're adults the FRIENDS not the parents are given more priority on their wedding day.
The whole thing is so weird.
Most Helpful Guy
Mmm. Well. My mom is entirely the opposite. 2 years ago, she bought me a teddy bear. When I was 24. >.> The year before that, it was a bunny, because bunnies were my favorite animal when I was a kid... She was like "I know you're too old for this stuff (maybe just a little), but I wanted to get this for you." So. My mom still treats me like I'm a child. She sees me in that light. Pretty much her entire existence is about her children.
However. I could tell that once I turned 17, my dad had essentially disowned me. He's like "You are not my problem anymore bitch." Understandably. Long story short--I was a pain in the ass.
I do not think this is a general trend that all parents do. It might be the behavior your parents have, but it's not what all parents do.0
Most Helpful Girl
When a child leaves home that child is now an adult and parents treat them different because they are no longer responsible for them as they should be independent and capable of making their own responsible decisions. Basically they are treati them not as kids but as adults mor equal to them, most parents don't talk behind their kids back except to lament to each other any bad decisions or mistakes they might think their grown up children are making ie career or bf/gf etc but only because they care and need to express their feelings as they feel powerless to help or guide them the way they did when they were kids.0