In my opinion, no it is not a job. I feel like taking care of your children is your responsibility. By no means am I saying that its easy to be a parent, breadwinner or no. I would say it is definatly hard to do when the child is young, However i feel like being a stay at home mom/dad is nothing close to a fulltime job. But what do you all think?
Most Helpful Guy
I very much disagree. My girlfriend babysits some children as a part-time college job and it's FREAKING tough. I've hardly ever seen her as exhausted as when she comes home at 11p. m. from a long day of babysitting. Do you have children? Being a stay-at-home parent is more than just "oh, I'm gonna read some stories to my children" ooooooh no madam. You are CONSTANTLY under stress. For example she has to cook lunch for the two kids and of course she can't just eat with them like adults eat because they'll be fighting over the pasta or throwing around with stuff and whatnot. So at the end of the meal, my girlfriend has usually eaten nothing or almost nothing because she was so focused on the kids. Next, she has to clean up everything. But of course the kids don't like that and they scream "play with us! We want to play! You're stupid, why do you not play!" So she has to explain them that cleaning up is also important.
Or another example: the younger of the two kids she babysits is 4 and thus right in the middle of her stubbornness-phase. So sometimes the girl lies down on the floor in the middle of a crowded supermarket and starts screaming and kicking with her feet and beating with her bands and goes totally bazooka. Of course that makes everyone else stare at you with that look on their faces "c'mon, make her quiet, what are you waiting for?" One time the girl even got one of her anger attacks in the middle of a busy crosswalk and my girlfriend (who is petite herself) had to carry the kid across the street, while having her face beaten by the little girl.
There are so many difficult things about children that most adults who don't have kids don't even know. For example my girlfriend has to walk the older of her babysitting kids to her ballet classes. But she's late because the younger one was making troubles at home. So now they have to hurry. Does the child want to hurry? Of course not. There's snails on the side of the street and they're soooo interesting. Oh there's a funny looking rock. Oh and a branch of a tree she wants to drag along! Once they get to the ballet school, they're late and who gets yelled at? Of course my girlfriend.
Having children means being constantly under pressure and stress. Both emotional and physical. My girlfriend has a step counter on her Iphone and she does 15,000 steps on average per day. I am also a Uni student but without a job and I don't even get close to that. Having children means that you never get to relax for2
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Most Helpful Girl
You don't want to be a stay at home parent! I am one and I am ready to go to work. Only two more years!!!
1. Most important thing is that you teach your children love, don't yell at them, empathize and understand them and help them figure life out. I read a lot of self help how to for kids
2. Cooking, cleaning and laundry
3. Train them to sleep on schedule, and potty training
4. Play dates, behavior monitoring
5. Playing referee for the rest of your life, I tried a book called siblings with out rivalries
6. While the younger one naps and the older one is on quiet time, I clean the bathrooms, garage, do the laundry and so on
7. I do all the finances, bills, investment, mutual funds and IRAs.
8. I do all the Clothing and grocery shopping
9. I am on top of the car and the house. Ac doesn't work? I am on it. Leaking roof? I am on it.
10. I am on top of all the family activities for the weekend and our vacation. Basically I do everything but work. I will be doing everything and work in two years but I am looking forward to it because I won't be dealing with the kids for a few hours and they drain me!!! I am stressed out like I have never been before.0