I wasn't sure how to phrase this really. I have a job, I make good money but my boyfriend just makes a lot more. He asked me to move in with him and that's great, I really want to. But he lives in Manhattan and I just can't afford to pay half of the rent of his apartment. Obviously though he can afford all of it so it's not really and issue, or is it?
He is a bit older which is partially why he makes more money, but he takes care of me in other ways too and while I enjoy it, it's always been something I felt a bit uneasy about. Like being dependent on someone. But maybe it's not?
Most Helpful Guy
Well if you make good money on your own then you aren't really dependent on him. Maybe you need him to live that kind of lifestyle but its not like youd be fucked and on the street if you broke up. So I dont think you qualify as being depenant on him, at least not how I define it.
As long as he doesn’t feel used and you aren't with him primarily for his money then I dont see the big deal.
Also, if you want to help out more but can't afford to contribute dollar for dollar on everything he pays for then maybe you could just contribute proportionally based on what he makes. Like if the things he pays for are only 10% of his total income then you could contribute 10% of what you make. Just an example :/0
Most Helpful Girl
I don't see anything wrong with it as long as both people in the relationship agree to the arrangement. Different lifestyles work for different couples. I'm sure your boyfriend understand that you don't make as much money and can't afford all of those expenses so if he still asked you to move in anyway, I doubt he expects you to pay that much. You could still contribute some though, even for small things such as groceries. That's just something you need to figure out with your boyfriend. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.1