When I say defensive, I don't mean physically (though being aware of your surroundings so you can defend yourself if need be, is not a bad thing). However, the kind of defensive I mean is mentally and emotionally. Do, you find yourself having to constantly explain yourself and defend the things that have happened in your life or that you do or don't do, to people. So, than you just always expect someone to be judgmental with you (like other people have been ), which leads you automatically defending yourself and life just because that's usually what ends up happening.
That's the kind of defensive I'm talking about.
Most Helpful Guy
I generally don't feel defensive (2), but there are some times that I get caught off guard.
I'll say this though. How we think and feel is about the only thing we that we have true control of. Other people will try to get me to imagine that they have control over that, but they don't and they can't cause me to feel that way unless I participate in the process (accepting what they've said or investing in an emotion). I think its important for people to make peace with their past and forgive themselves for what they've done. Why should past mistakes effect the present/future in a negative way too. The way I look at it, everyone that I come in contact with in my life can potentially benefit from having a better me. I don't want to delay that progress by dwelling over things that I can't change. I'll learn from my mistakes and do the best to make the most out of this moment.0
Most Helpful Girl
At my age, I don't feel it's appropriate to have to explain myself to anyone, honestly. It's hard to give that a number.0