My best friend, is a boy. We are juniors in highschool. This school year he's going to a different school, but we still hang out every week. And we have been best friends since the third grade. And now, for the past week I've been thinking of him differently, like I've been feeling like I am in love with him. When I think about him now I get butterflies in my stomach and it used to not be that way. When I thought of him before it was like he was my brother. Now I wish we had something more. And I don't know what to do. He has a girlfriend they just started dating a couple days ago. I feel scared because he is my best friend and I don't want to ruin our friendship.
Most Helpful Guy
1. You are 18-24 and a junior in high school. I know, you accidentally got the age wrong when you registered and not the site won't let you correct that.
2. He has a girlfriend now so you need to wait before you say anything to him.
3. Yes, if you move forward with telling him how you feel, you risk losing a friendship, but if you don't tell him
a. you will always regret it, and
b. your friendship will never be the same. How can you listen to him talking about whether he should have sex with his girlfriend, or what to get her for Christmas?1
Most Helpful Girl
Out of respect for him and his relationship, don't mention it until they break up. This could be a simple infatuation and it could be over just as quickly as it started. If you continue feeling that way and learn that they have problems in the relationship, just be there for him. Don't do the typical romance book thing and ultimately reveal your love, because that will result in more stress on him. Wait for the right time to tell him. If he is truly your friend, he'll appreciate you waiting and he'll keep the friendship going even if he doesn't return the feelings.2