does it matter if a girl is around a lot of guys? does it look bad? do you automatically assume things about a girl like that?
I have a lot of guy friends. some closer than others. I've never really asked them their opinion on it but i never felt i should. I feel like one of the guys and i dont want to ruin what we have. What concerns me is if i want to date someone, would they be wary about approaching me because i have a lot of guy friends.
When i was younger, i mostly had female friends but now that im older, i seem to have a lot more guy friends. When i was younger, if i ever had male friends, i ended up finding out later that they had feelings for me. I dont think that is the case now. I am just surrounded by a lot of guys and i tend to make friends regardless. I am also an engineer major and the majority of students are male. i get along with a lot of them. one of my best friends is a guy. i've known him for two years and some semesters, if we have classes together, we are inseparable. and now that he made a new close friend, i usually stick to the both of them. If we go somewhere, its all three of us and i have fun. i like hearing their take on things, and they always ask me about girl things too. i just find it so interesting that we think so differently just because of our gender. i really love them. as friends.
At work, i am also surrounded by guys. I work with mostly guys and again, I am usually talking to them. We crack jokes, have competitions, and pick on eachother. Its just really fun.
I still have female friends. of course i dont discriminate. my best friend is a girl, and some of my friends at school are female too.
but im just wondering if it makes a girl look a certain way. i asked one of my guy friends from work about girls who hang around a lot of guys and he says usually, they're pretty easy and been around. Im not like that at all. in fact, im inexperienced in that area.
but does it really seem that way?
Most Helpful Guy
I'm not saying it is necessariky true for you, but every, and I mean EVERY girl like you that I met ended up being a total attention whore. None of them would admit it, but they hung out with so many guys, because they knew they had a thing for them, and they were so damn insecure that they needed the attention to boost their self esteem.
Even if this wasn't the case for you, I would still be hesitant at the very least. I once dated a girl (briefly) who had a few guy friends that she knew for several years. It made me feel like the number one guy spot in her life was already taken, and that there was no room for me. It made me feel like I wasn't as important to her, because she knew them all for so much longer, and in the end I was only passing through.
When in a relationship, at least after a while, I want to feel like I am her number one priority. For instance, I have a few acquaintences that happen to be girls, and sometimes I go to them for girl advice and such, but we are not close friends, and I barely talk to any of them after school. There is still room in my life for the number one girl position.
I don't feel jealous when she has a same gender best friend who she has known longer than me, because she needs a best friend, and I understand that. in my opinion, people need a lover and a best friend of the same gender - but once they are taken, they no longer need a best friend of the opposite gender because their lover can fill that role too.2
Most Helpful Girl
I have a lot of best friends (don't say; no you can only have one, but I love them uniquely). My is also my best friend. I have about 9 best friends, 5 guys, 4 girls (including my crush on the guys side). My favourite best friend said to me 'I shouldn't have so many best friends it's kinda hard to keep up and not really fair but it doesn't matter. She asked my crush and he said 'Since your used to having so many guy friends you aren't nervous around guys and it looks like your flirting'. *he likes me back jsk :) *
So I don't know maybe it's just him but I think it definitely bothers some guys.0
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