I'm very annoyed. All of the people I know have been going out since 14 and casually drinking, staying out till 2 or 3 am.
I'm 16 and I can't even stay out until 1, let alone go clubbing like everyone else. I feel so bored on the weekends, and alone because everyone is out and I'm stuck inside always.
How can I convince my parents to allow me to stay out until 2/3 or go to clubs?
*btw it's legal to drink here at 18, but it used to be 16 (a couple years ago) so everyone just does it. I don't get drunk, I just drink for fun and know how to handle my alcohol.
Any opinions stating my parents are right and I should listen to them will be reported or ignored. I don't need you to tell me that crap, my parents already do. Clearly you've never been a teenager stuck in this situation.
Most Helpful Guy
Be glad you have parents who care. I don't swing wit the modern attitude in the US and largely England as well, that 16year olds are adult enough to go to drinking and casual sex-oriented clubs until 3 am, even if they can allegedly handle their alcohol. Adults can't handle their alcohol, so expecting 16 year olds to do that is just propaganda.
Most Asian kids, even second generation, or Middle Eastern kids, aren;t allowed to do that either, so it's not like you're a persecuted minority here!2
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Most Helpful Girl
Yes, I was a teen in your situation. You won't be the last and you're definitely not the first. And yes, you will thank them later when your friends are looking old and haggard at 21 from too much drinking and partying and you still look youthful, or when your friends get into some drama (and they will) while out one night, or when you're 25 and look back at younger people and thank fuck your parents didn't let you behave like them.
I agree teens should be allowed some freedoms, of course, but you're trying to move too fast. You're 16, you don't need to go to clubs. Fair enough trying alcohol is kinda normal at your age, but clubbing not so much. Just meet in the middle. Go to your friends house, have a few drinks, GET A SAFE WAY HOME, and be home at a decent time. If you start getting drunk and coming home late, then you've proven to your parents they were right. If you follow rules, do normal teen stuff but be sensible with it, your parents may relax the rules a little for you. But having a strop over it won't convince them.2
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