Can I ask you a question?
I asked this guy that's been opening up to me lately and just recently he's hinted that he wants to be with me and I asked him what he valued and he hasn't responded, is he like afraid to say me or something I'm kind of confused because he usually replies to my msgs.
what do you mean to be with you? as bf/gf? sometimes the value part, not need to be said if he is indeed showing he values you...if he deosnt value you, you can tell
More than friends and yes I can tell he values me but I asked him a question to see what his values are and he didn't respond yet.
i dont know the details... i learned nowadays there are so many terms... to me i would want to know if i am the girlfriend.more than freinds can mean other thingsif you feel he values you then let it be and enjoy that and be the best girlfriend. you can be. no need to dewell on waiting for his answer when you can feel he values youi do get how we women at times dewell on that one thing... i am guilty of it many times with my boyfriend.
More than friends such as being in a relationship/gf and boyfriend.
thats good to hear...i have the title as a girlfriend. (just made the 2 yr. mark).. but i dont feel it... so to me, its more important for me to feel he loves me 100% than calling me his girlfriend but makes me feel not value.
I'm sorry to hear that, I don't know what's wrong with men nowadays. They need to step it up and show more love.
i do know whats wrong...most men are raised by controlling women/mothers. they are raising big boys not men... so thats where i am at now...i have no idea what to do next... care to help? lol
If I was you, I'll talk to him about it and see if things change.
we have talked a lot.. sometimes talking so much about the relatiosnhip, kills the romance...him over analizing the hell over things and much much other issues... that i am tired of talking. i just want him to love me and value me... loli had no idea what i was gettng myself into when i first met him... then its like peeling onions... ea. layer hurts my eyes...what to do?
Well if you tried talking and that still doesn't work, maybe consider moving on. He just finally replied and none of his values was me so now I know.
how long have you known him? sometimes men have diff. goals in life, depending how long he has known you and what the relatiosnhip is like between you too.for me, i know the prob. and talking will not change a person who have been in one way for all his life. he has no idea how to be other than who he has been and trained to be a boy by his famiily all his life... i am trying to love him from a distance...or I can move on to meet other men who also have diff. issues
We known eachother over a year and were still friends but we both like eachother and we already been intimate. Your situation is complicated but I think it's great you have unconditional love.
thnak you for the MHO... i havn't talk to him 3-4 days now... i dont know what to do
He'll contact you. He's probably busy.
oh... i have been ignoring his calls since Tuesday... he called wed. thurs. frid. sat...i guess i am "ghosting" him :( ... i am kinda stuck so i am not dealing with it for now... but i dont know when to reconnect... like how many days to call him back
Tomorrow would be good, you gave him time miss you and it seems like he really wants to talk to you.
i dont know... his mom is still at his place i am pretty sure... (for a week i think)he created situations where his whole family doenst support us... so i am staying back and letting him do his thing with his mom... at the same time i feel bad ghosting him... but i dont want to get into discussions with him about the same thing... while his mom there...i am not in a good place... i dont know why i am in this poistion...how are things going with you and bf? feeling any better?
Oh okay, I hope it all works out and that's good your allowing him time with family. Me and my friend is doing okay we spent talking on the phone for like 2 hours and everything was good but he acts like he's not good enough for me.
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