At the end of the day, do you ultimately judge a book by its cover?

I find this to be a funny topic because so many claim to be nonjudgemental, but i think some dont even realize how many instant judgments they make within seconds, even if just done on a subconcious level. Personally im judged always from the age of men i prefer, my intelligence, and of course the way i look. Apparently beauty and brains aren’t supposed to be mixed,? oookay👌

Anyways, beyond my experience and as a whole, what are your thoughts,? Are you guilty of stereotyping and making pre-judgements? Do you find yourself judging a book by its cover,? Explain

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  • I am not judging you, in any way, because I don't know you, or have I seen you, but I have interacted with some questions you posited, and I agreed with, even if I didn't respond, here, to all.
    Maybe sites like this allow people like me to see 'your intellectual side' rather than what some might focus on, meeting, in person.
    Right now, I don't know much about you, except that I think that you are well-educated, articulate, and passionate, in your beliefs.
    I am not imagining anyone, any 'stereotype,' as I don't know you, and stereotypes tend to alienate, and harm, more than help.
    The best that I can offer, is that I think you are like an onion, but in the harsh, bitterness, but the layers, upon layers, and I am guessing when you start to trust, you let them see more and more layers, under that dry, protective shell...

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    • 7 d ago

      ❤️ this.
      Thanks☺️

  • Depends some books are just a pile infantile dribble and hogwash, others are show pony's, they don't have any substance. Some grab your attention in the first chapter and have you clutching at your Testicles untill you finish the book. I think you have to try and read The first paragraph, Even if you are to tired.

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    • 7 d ago

      You seriouslly have some of the best responces!

      Thanks, good answer:)

    • 7 d ago

      Gracias, senorita.

    • 6 d ago

      You are boosting my self esteem and my MHO all at the same time.

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  • I can say I don't. I always let people talk and get to know them before I judge. You can learn a lot about a person by letting them talk for at least five minutes. Within that time I pass judgement on personality and character. 💙😇

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  • No. :) I'm forever telling people (and not just on the internet): "generalizing!!" And when someone does that, they just loose credibility in other people's eyes.

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    • 7 d ago

      Great answer! Good point!

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  • Everybody makes snap judgements. Anybody who denies it is a liar. We are sentient beings. We asses and gage the things that we see purely on Instinct. Threat or no threat, appealing or not appealing etc. In some ways it helps. In social situations it only matters if you can go beyond that intial judgement.

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  • Stereotyping, not so much, but I might be a bit biased towards good-looking covers. I'm a STEM type but occasionally if I see a very pretty-looking one, there's a "DERP DERP! ME LIKE PRETTY GIRL!" side of my brain that interferes with the whole scientific skepticism.

    >> Apparently beauty and brains aren’t supposed to be mixed,? oookay [...]

    In my experience, sometimes it is the opposite. At least in terms of social intellect, in my limited experience, I found it more aligned with the most attractive people (then again I might be biased since I tend to find sociable types more attractive in general).

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    • 7 d ago

      I think you are probably on the same level as me or could be with your opinion on this.

      I like the outer appearance but also find myself pretty sapiosexual, so if i dont see the mind working the cover loses importance and im not really interested. Maybe just for a hookup🤷‍♀️

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    • 7 d ago

      Well of course! A personality definatly can't cover up ugly but it sure can make the average attractive person extremly attractive. Lol

      Im always called shallow. Am i? In a way yes, but fheres a lot of aspects to what i like. Its never super clear to be explained

    • 7 d ago

      >> Im always called shallow. Am i? In a way yes, but fheres a lot of aspects to what i like. Its never super clear to be explained

      The way I see it like anyone who has eyes and uses them is "shallow". Take girls who like confident guys. How much confidence can we assess exchanging texts without seeing the way a man carries himself, his body language, or the tone of his voice (which is still just sensory data), etc? So I always thought the idea of "looks" vs. "personality" as blurred. Of course, there are some people who favor one type of data much more than the other or make hasty judgments on limited information. But I don't see a problem with using our eyes to try to assess how a person might be like since I don't see that as any less reliable than relying on what a person says, e. g. A wise person takes all information into account as I see it.

  • honestly i do but the thing is i try not too and lowkey its kinda hard but if im in the spot i would give anyone a chance, except gays im straight so i wouldn't feel comfortable with gays 😁😅

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    • 7 d ago

      I mean your just being honest😂🤷‍♀️

    • 7 d ago

      yes i am thanks for noticing 😂👍

  • I can't. My roomie is the perfect example, she is short and looks harmless, but I've seen her in fights, like she's a one man army

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    • 7 d ago

      The little ones are always some of the scariest when mad. Im 5’3 lol id know

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    • 7 d ago

      Is this the friend with the record🙈

    • 7 d ago

      Haha yes

  • I most certainly do. I think its natural, and a normal way of understanding the world. However, I dont throw the book away. If it has interesting title, or premise, I begin to turn the pages.
    And I might think "Hey its worth a read"
    I might not like some of the points the books make or I won't like the characters, but it doesn't mean they are beyond respect.
    hell, some books are worth re-reading, when you become more mature, or as we grow we might find that ugly cover- a bit more appealing.

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  • I Think we all are 1 way or another considering there is always a right or wrong or Good or bad , always an opposite of what we think or believe and what we are use to. It just comes down to what we believe how we express it. You can be positive about something but there will always be someone that is negative of it and vice versa. So Yes everyone is judgmental 1 way or another it just comes down to how you see things and what you believe , Just like your question about pro guns and anti guns , You are pro gun and you believe people should be able to have guns but someone that is anti gun is going. to judge you and probably think your stupid for thinking that way. So again it's a no win battle it just comes down to what you believe. Me honestly thinks you shouldn't really care about age of men that hit on you it's the person that matters but you dont see it that like i do so you are lost lol

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    • 7 d ago

      Im not lost or upset of the judgement of others, i just find it funny, thats all

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      True though

    • 7 d ago

      Yea everyone sets in their ways. We are all good people and we are all Assholes as well to someone so always 2 sides of a Coin. We can only live our lives the way we want to we can only guide Love we. can't force it As for me i choose to respect people if they respect me I try to treat people the way I want. to be treated, in committed relationships i try to remove selfishness as much as. possible cuz i value relationships , i dont. commit to be single.

  • You know the answer because, like most women, it's all you care about.

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    • 7 d ago

      Its a debate question, clearly i know we all tend to do it

  • Not by what you look like. I don't know if that is really you in pic. I doubt if it is. I go by what you say on here, and from what I have read , I don't see much intelligence.
    You seem more of a Narcissist to me. Having sex with a ton of guys to get lust fulfilled. When you get pregnant , you just have the baby killed for your convenience. Never considering anyone else but yourself. What you need. Leading guys on you can tell. Threesomes and that type of stuff. Having everything paid by Daddy. Apparently , the morals of a flea. Like you say it is your opinion , who cares what someone else thinks. I think you are like that porn host turned Jewelry sales. She was let go by JTV by the way. Now she will have to pull the wool over the next employers eyes.

    Too bad you feel the way you do.

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    • 7 d ago

      Clearly the pics me i just never reply to your opinions. Appears you're a bitter old man. Get well✌️🥰

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    • 7 d ago

      You should seek help , don't let the HIV become AIDS

    • 7 d ago

      Sorry all of “daddys money” wouldn't allow me to have that, nor would my track record, i dont sleep with filth. Bye gramps✌️

  • Everyone judges. I try my best to give people a chance when I cast negative judgement though.

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  • The way you treat your body and your hygiene "is" part of your personality. So, yes, but ofcourse to a certain extent.

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  • Not really. That might have something to do with the fact that my eyes are bad, though. I should wear glasses but don't think I could adjust to it at this point.

    So, I don't really notice a girl's "cover" until she is up close. I can get a vague sense of her shape from a distance, which coincidentally is of most aesthetic interest to me, but that's about it. We have to already be in each other's personal space for me to see any details, by which time I'll have already seen enough of her reactions to my presence that I'm no longer judging on the cover alone.

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  • At a sub-conscious level... Maybe, but i always try to give everyone a chance.

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  • na... i don't... i hav to get to know the person... what age u like yr guys?

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  • Always

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    • 7 d ago

      Id think if you were unnattractive you wouldn't have the choice,? Glad ill never know🤷‍♀️

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    • 7 d ago

      You’re*

    • 7 d ago

      Just because I hate the human race as a whole doesn't mean I don't like some individuals

  • First impressions are so important

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  • Been there, done that. Wowsaritos! What a mistake!

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  • Not really

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  • Can’t say I can

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  • Yes I do. I operate in worst-case scenarios.

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  • Sometimes

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  • I don't read books.

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  • Never ever. I always see what is inside the book

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  • Nope I am not into judgement

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  • No because I don't read books

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  • Yes. I go on gut instinct with people

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