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I pressed the wrong one. 😅 What is going on in my life right now is according to my very very long-term plan. I'm working on my skills, languagues to be able to spend my lives abroad. Since my family couldn't support me to study overseas when I was young. Scholarships are also interesting. However, my family wants me to stay close at the moment, I can't go anywhere for long. So, when I'm ready and have freedom, I will do it right away. Here's another method to go to other countries. I have seen lots of girls dating foreigners and travelling with them. I'm not sure it's a good idea to rely on others like that. What would you say?
Rosa,An interesting question. I've been pondering this, and I don't think I have one simple answer or opinion. You used the phrase "rely on others" which defintely doesn't have a positive connotation. And if you were bringing this up thinking about people who want to marry foreigners to be able to stay in that country, or be able to live in another country... well that must eventually eat away at one's soul, as the intention is something that one could call selfish, or self-serving.But otoh, I am supportive of the idea of people travelling in their twenties, especially, as at this time they have lots of energy (whether it's boundless or not, this is the most energy one will ever have). This can buoy one through the trials of travelling, and there are certain to be some/maybe many (racing to catch public flights, trains, crime, living without the comforts of home, away from all that is warm and familiar, etc.) but it's also a great time to learn about the world and other cultures. The minds are like sponges when young, and the first time they experience something, and having this direct, first-hand experience also gives one great wisdom and this is a powerful thing to have. When talking with others about life, some people speak with little experience, have lived a small or insular life, and you can feel their biases enter into conversations about the world. But if you've really lived a life, been introduced to so many new and foreign things, you can speak with honesty and authority on what you have learned. No one can take that away from you. Your experience is your experience. But the more people you have met, and really listened to and deeply engaged with along the way, the broader and wiser and more open a person one can be. I think that's something to feel genuinely proud of. Not boastful, but confident about. cont'd...
So, I went on a tangent there, but yes, I think meeting foreginers and spending time with them exploring the world, it's mostly a positive thing. Even if one person is more experienced or knowledgeable about the details of those places and tends to take the lead more, each person is contributing something to that relationship (lovers, friends, companions, intellectual equals, the list goes on). Sometimes the new, fresh, wide-eyed enthusiasm for the world, seeing (and tasting, smelling, hearing) things for the first time, can be a very appealing thing to others. They can see things anew, vicariously, through those other eyes.(In defense of some men who like to date significantly younger than themselves, this can be a justification for that - the older people get, often the more opinions they acquire, and that is not always so fun for others. Finding another whose opinions match, becomes harder and harder.) But this progression, this acquiring of knowledge and information, it is a cornerstone of life. Some of it happens slowly, so incrementally it is not noticed. And some events change you forever. cont'd...
As Margery Williams says, in 'The Velveteen Rabbit'...(This is one of my favourite quotes in all of literature:)“Real isn’t how you are made,” said the Skin Horse. “It’s a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real.”“Does it hurt?” asked the Rabbit.“Sometimes,” said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. “When you are Real you don’t mind being hurt.”“Does it happen all at once, like being wound up,” he asked, “or bit by bit?”“It doesn’t happen all at once,” said the Skin Horse. “You become. It takes a long time. That’s why it doesn’t happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are Real you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand.”
I agree with traveling when you are young and still have lots of energy. This is why I have been traveling, as a volunteer. It's a way to go out to explore the world with low expense. Moreover, you can have chances to meet new people from around the world. It's eye opening when you're surrounded by multi-cultures, and then you realize that there are varied, unfathomable aspects of people. I really like it when I meet smart people that I can learn from. As well as ones who are brave and full of dedication, I'm inspired by them. I would like to have other opportunities to meet foreigners that lead to travelling to many countries. And Wow. I love this quote. I haven't read it. Interesting. Thank you very much.
E. I made some bad choices, that's why I'm still living in a country that I hate, I'm still in college and I'm still living with my mother. It doesn't help when I have people telling me that I'm still young and that I can still change my life. I feel like punching them in the face! 😡
Thank you for the MHO. :)
I was torn between "I did what I could" and "wtf happened". I threw my life away before I was 17. Then I tried to recover in all the wrong ways. I ruined every romantic relationship, screwed up every job, destroyed my body, and allowed myself to self destruct. And now I'm here. Trying to rebuild again. But I am having issues overcoming curveballs.
I spent my life trying to make people accept me and be happy at my own expense. Right now I am almost out of the hole I dug myself into. Its not at all what I expected. I am doing much worse!But I am finally doing the right things and I have no regrets.
You can never really plan anything most if the time we don't even know it but we're just going with the flow. As highly intelligent and we humans think we are even the genuises we really have no control over what happens. As it is we barely keep avid control over ourselves. The type of people who think they finally figured it out and all is well by is when life throws a cliff at you. And yes I said it right. Analyze that all you brainiac can't tell me nothing ass feeble minded humans. Oh how hard it us when the cliff hits us not from falling off if it but thinking we've conquered and done something great. Remember this everything that's is being done had and will be done over and over again. And I won't apologize for honest to God TRUTH but there really nothing special about any if us that make us that much different than the next flesh and blood air breathing human being. How oxymoronic is it to say we're all the same just different. Well I can't wait to see the replies from this one especially from the Volkswagon committee here come the clowns. Na just fuckin with Cha a bit. Funny but yet so true.
Pretty much "Nope. I don't know wtf happened. My world got turned upside down. I just ended up here." since my birth. My recovery is in progress ever since. I work day and night on that restlessly. I am desperate to turn my life 180 degrees from what it used to be.With money I will achieve all that - just not the time wasted forcefully in vain. The past is the past.
I've been reading about you. Your story and comments are interesting. I am beginning to understand you more now, your belief that money is the answer to much of your problems.I like your phrasing "not time wasted forcefully in vain."
I'm glad you do now. You're not the only one seeing this universal solution we have based on money.If i had to choose between eternal happiness or unlimited money, I'd take unlimited money.If you know me more, you'd understand, that while i rent an apartment i don't have a home. I call it my base. I lost my home when i was 15 years old. I'm very far away from my former home. I'm stranded in a strangers land.When you lost your home and you get carried far swear, you feel like have lost your identity and place of belonging. You know exactly, that everything else falls apart and there's absolutely nothing you can do about it. In fact its so bad, that The hunger is on the verge of killing you.When you are left with nothing and you have nothing else to lose (no home, no friends, no girlfriend/love, no money and you're stranded) you'll begin to see the only redemption being the money and drugs as your personal savior much like Jesus for some people.Voila, you got me: a product of the void, where everything was taken from you.Money is my ultimate goal and everything, hosting what is remaining from my life. Drugs get me going through the days and nights, so that the depression doesn't bother me anymore.
You and I share more in common than you may guess. I am intimately familiar with some of the experiences and feelings you have had. But if I can be frank... and I don't mean this in at all a confrontational or demeaning way, but just communicating here (and yes, also from a person twice your age)... I think some of your thinking is askew. I feel the resistance in you and I'm not sure just how receptive you are to other thoughts, on say, some of the things you bring up. I think your mind is quite set. But again, on many things I don't disagree. So I enjoy your comments, and feel free to keep sharing on my q's.
Understandable. I have an open mind, so feel free to ask anything. It's not like I'm a bigot or anything.
That's very cool of you.
Didn't vote..Pretty much a free spirit at the same time, just going with the flow of lifes passages.We all kinda go through the same - ups and downs. Each chapter you turn, be ready for the challenges. With that mind set... its not how I imagine, much unexpected in many good ways.
much better than one (i) expected
Haha, no. The things I plan never work out the way I think about them. Life has a tendency to throw multiple curveballs at me whenever I expect something to work out.So at this point I just go with the flow. I have some basics aims, but everything outside of that I stopped planning long-term.
Depends on how far back you go. I just finished my last 5 uear plan having completed most of those hoals now a year into this 5 years and am pretty much on track. But go back 20 years and my life looks nothing like what I expected, and 30 even mpre different. 40 years and I would be surprised I am still alive... So yes and no.
That's 5 year plan and those goals.
Nope. However i do believe that things do happen for a reason. All the undesirable stuff happening is necessary. I am certain that my life will straighten out. My life is a giant puzzle. I get the pieces out of sequence. Then the right piece arrives, i then match it to what i got already. Then a part of the big picture begins to appear.
Good analogy. There's something extremely satisfying about puzzles.
I usually just go with my instincts but my life isn't bad I'd say I'm more successful then plenty of people my age. But there are ups and downs and I welcome struggle so i can learn from it. I'm working on realizing my dreams right now too so I'm not where I want to be but I'll be damned if I dont aim to get there as soon as possible.
Not at all. I tripped and continued tripping until I reached the bottom of the stairs. But then floor sunk and I sank with it. Now I'm. trapped here
I have a great image for you, reminds me of this... after Alice falls down the rabbit hole...
I hate that movie. The cartoon version too. It creeps me out.
I had a plan then it changed. So I made a new plan. Then I failed. Now I have no idea what I’m doing, what I want or where I’m going. I’ll figure it out. 🤞
D is probably closest to my answer.One of the biggest things was becoming a single parent. You never imagine that's going to be your life. Other things went chaotic too for a while but I still plan for things.
I made a long series of terrible decisions, like dropping out of college, stealing from my parents, abusing my prescriptions, and mainlining heroin.
Yes, nothing they would make a movie about, but just a regular life with some loving people I get to spend time with.
F. And I can’t stop laughing for some reason. Life has completely derailed me out of the blue twice in the past 3.5 years and I’ve had to rebuild my life... again twice.
Some things were unexpected. some things are expected. I admire the pics.
Is your name more about something that is not legally recognized, or untrue because of erroneous information or unsound reasoning, or a person with a disability or injury?
I don't know, I didn't choose the name, I think it might have been suggested by the system and I just accept it. sorry about it though :)
Oh, what an odd random creation!
I don't understand. are you attacking me?
Not at all! Someone else today coincidentally told me that her username was automatically generated by the site as well (I did not ask, but she offered her real name to introduce herself to me). I just joined a few weeks ago, and I definitely remember creating my username. So did the site used to auto-generate suggestions? I am puzzled why anyone would want those ones. I tend to always like to decide things myself. It never even occurred to me until the two of you today, that you didn't all choose your u/n.English has too many variants of the same word. Invalid and invalid are two quite different things, you know what I mean? I thought maybe you were being facetious.
You first sign up quickly cuz you wanna answer or ask something. but then you rank up and start taking it seriously. I am indeed intending to change a lot in this profile if I am to spend more time in the forum. full identity with my picture an all.I like it in GAG more than Reddit or the others , I feel more reachable and debatable as a new member and a talkative person, the outlook is clear and nice , good system questions, polls, takes. I think that's why I stayed more here. but still didn't pay any attention to my username or other usernames. some usernames are not even understandable mix of letters and numbers. my real name is Rafid. that's in case I get busy in the future or couldn't change in my profile!.
Nice to meet you, Rafid. My name is self-evident. I really loved your writing on my 'I have seen things' q. That was amazing. Pls. continue to answer my questions when you feel like it. I enjoy your responses.I believe once you create your account you can't change any of the key elements - username, age, sex.
At this moment, I have no idea about what I am doing with my life and what do I want to do with my life 😂🤷🏻♀️😬🙊🙈
My life is turning out pretty much only %10 how i imagined it would. But it’s all my fault. I am lazy, coward, a professional procrastinator, time waster etc
Better than anything I could ever imagine. 🌸💜🌸
I voted C.I thought I was going to live alone by myself, so that I would not hurt anyone or anyone could hurt me. Life did not turn out that way.
50/50 a lot of things have worked out for me but there have been a lot of unexpected twists and turns
Nope I was hoping to be married with at least one child by now.
Never in a million years would I ever thought my life would be the way it is. It suck most of the time but I'm alive can't really complain🙄🤔😐😑
No not really I thought I would be married and have a family by the time I turned 30 I'm now 33 single no kids possibly may not be able to have kids due to my pcos
i really had no preformed ideas of how it would go... i was born with fuck all and still have most of it left if that helps
Nope but I dpnt mind it too much. I'm slowly working on getting it the way I want it to.
It's not at all. It's going a lot slower than I imagined.
I imagined it to turn out to be really bad but it's pretty good so far. I don't trust my luck though 😂
No not at all. But I didn't have much mapped out I pretty much winged it the whole time
It was fine, pretty normal. Then chaos. But now kinda back to normal again. Whew.
Not at all. At this point I have no idea what I'm doing with my life.
Vividly imagined, well planned, well executed & happily living it. :)
No, I did not imagine myself to have depression and anxiety, and have so many problems in my life. But here I am.
I'm about to finish my major and finally get a life that I wished for.
I planned but i ended up in a different genre!
And what type of genre did you end up in?Stranger Than Fictionhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W8e1ouQxndghttps://www.imdb.com/title/tt0420223/reference
I planned to complete my studies on a different course by 23 and get married by 25.. but ended up still studying that too in a different subject.
Normal -> chaos -> normal
Nah, but that's okay because it will
Some yes, some not at all.
Hell no much different
The opposite, rather. But no less exciting.
Hell no... But I'm working on it
I never had much of a plan.
Absolutely the fuck not.
Not quite, but it's good enough.
I wish I had died years ago
I’m glad you didn’t
I've been reading your profile and comments. You have a remarkably bleak outlook on just about everything. How did this happen? I think you should seek professional help.P. S. Regarding your Latin quote - sometimes it’s not about knowledge but about access to and desire to find information. The inquisitive among us have a better chance of triumph.
Better in some ways, worse in others.
I'm F'd, yet I'm basically happy.Go fiigure.
How are you F'd? ! I am sure it can't be that bad! You're alive and you are breathing! 🙂 Your loved ones are ok I hope!
@SueAnon84 : Actually, I was making a joke... a pun that I did select option F.Yes, alive. And living on Maui to boot.But I am estranged from my abusive family.The love of my life just told me she's no longer in love with me and is quite sure she'll never be again, no matter what I do.I have early stage cancer in BOTH kidneys. (Awaiting surgery. Doctors say there's a very good chance I'll be completely cured.)I suffer fron chronic, intractable, treatment-resistent depression.And yet, I'm basically happy and grateful.Check my comments if you don't believe me.
Ooh Maui! Nice!
@SueAnon84 U have NOOOO idea!
Yes, am still working on it tho
No not at all. It's a living nightmare
I’m choice E
What is all that art?
One of the things that i enjoy about this site and asking questions is finding images to represent an idea. I love words and images passionately and both equally. Any chance I get to work with both, I will. Sometimes an image inspires my question, and sometimes it is the inverse. In this particular case, I googled images for "chaos" because that was the more interesting concept here, of the multiple choice I had in mind... how things do not always go as planned in life. So this word brought me, I presume, to 'chaos theory' which is an entire discipline/mode of study within physics. And then I liked the abstract idea of space and destiny and larger forces at play. So finding one image, I then look for other images that flow, visually, with it (have you heard of 'flow'? It is a word also used in workflow psychology - as in getting into a 'zen' sort of state of maximum balance and efficiency and productivity). Sometimes I will put disparate objects next to other on purpose, but other times I want them to strongly connect. These are abstract thoughts, obviously. That is the bread and butter of what interests me. And psychology and psychological states, and philosophy. I'm not going to just post one image after another of a close-up of a person 'thinking'. I like, more, a physical representation of what thinking looks like.
They are neat
I'm happy you like them.
Nope not at all
Not at all
yeah, I think it is.
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