Yes... well said. Its a big tribe!
Someone once told me, many out there feel the same way. Its up to us to reach out, to break the ice, to connect with others. There are always people out there who you can share some fun experiences with. Get involve, they need you :)
@midnightmoon05 I do go to concerts but most of the people who go are your age and younger. That's really my enjoyment right now.
I understand that, it's a lot of loss at one time. When I read up on breakups... it causes brain damage... e. g. bad stress. But there is good stress... and you can recover and be better than before. I will say in my prior singles group, I've seen quite a few single women in their 40's 50's getting married... quite a few first time.if you were married for long time, the world changed... dating changed... its awful:) sorry. there are decent people out there who are fun, and looking, etc.. but expect to kick a bunch of them to the curb. I think you are much better off focusing on you... meditate (heals the brain), journal, learn something new, get in shape, feel good, do things you love to do and try some new things, have fun on GAg, etc.. . Enjoy life... positive and healthy draws the same. definitely don't believe what the other women say because they are projeting their own lack of hope onto you... you are highly adaptable. I've seen so many people get into good relationships at your age. 53 is the new 36!;)
Oh I have had some digestive issues that slowed me down and I just got out of a moldy apartment. Not black mold but mold. I think both really did a number of my clear thinking. I feel like over the last few weeks my mind has been slowly clearing. Plus I just had surgery yesterday for something that might allow me to eat normally again without constant pain. When I was first out mingling in meetup groups the men who gave me the most interest were all younger than me. Well the interest meetup had mostly younger adults and I took it over as an organizer. It weirded me out a bit having men in their late 30s approaching me. I guess it isn't that uncommon and I generally look younger than my age on a good day. Only recently have men my age even took notice. I really don't want to be married again at least at this point. I just want a monogamous relationship. I got married in my late 30s and had my child at 38 so I'm sort of an in between person that I don't really fit with my age group all the time. I have met other women who had children later and they seem to be more comfortable with people at least slightly younger than them because they have more in common.
Good you are getting out of the stress environment... molds.. candida, stress lowering immune system all is a cycle. The body can heal and recover as can the mind!I think young guys like older women sometimes because they are more mature stable and mature. Age is a factor of the mind. It can be weird though... you have to decide what works for you...
I don't think it is all casual stuff. I found that younger men seem to have a need for a woman to listen without judgment. Well that is true of all men I think. I can't say I was that way in the past but that comes with life experience. Some men get beaten down by life and the women they are around. I set my cut off age that I most likely wouldn't go under age wise. If a man hasn't accomplished what he wants in life like marriage, children, etc. then we are not on the same path and there is no point in me holding him back just for my own selfish needs. I don't do casual so there is no point starting something that isn't going to have any substance.
sounds healthy. Agree, I see a lot of beatup males and having someone listen and just accept us is like salve after a tough bout.
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Just remember you have a daughter. And even though in a few years she's really going to try your patience you mean the world to her. Remember your mom.
You're right. ❤ Thanks for the encouragement. And the loneliness is only momentary anyway, like when someone asks if you're lonely... hahaMy daughter fills so much of my time that I hardly have time to think of it.
I figured ;)
Loneliness and being desperate are two different things.