I'm a mild-moderate sociopath, would you be able to handle that?

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These are I'm tendencies but ironically I end up with guilt in the end (esp when I'm going too far) and don't want to do it:
- Used to torture small lizard (holding them against a burning lightbulb or cutting their tails) as a 7 year-old for curiosity or whenever I got bored
- Composite liar (will purposely elaborate versions and say things someone never said, causing two people to hate each other)
- Sometimes enjoy the drama over watching people hating each other and laughing about it
- I've trolled and lied online too; creating stories about accidents
- Sometimes proceed without guilt

However, I do end up crying and feeling some guilt if I'm going to far or realize the person I've caused hurt too is suffering. I just made my mother cried so much and in seeing her in so much pain, I ended up feeling guilt. I have the ability to fall in love too. I really do want to amend all the mess I've created over the years. I know I have a problem and probably need help.

Some of the traits of a sociopaths is found in me but if I'm feeling guilt right now and want to change, then I must not be a full sociopath. Or am I still one?

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My elaborted lied tend to happen whenever I have outburst or uncontrollable rages.

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Those uncontrollable rages are usually whenever I'm carrying a deep resentment or was hurt in the past.

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Gunnar1978

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I think you show a high degree of self-reflexion. You know that the things you did are really not ok, but beeing a sociopath you cannot feel it that way or, as you say, only to some extend. So for you it should be a decision what is an automatism (somehow) for other people: to not be an asshole.

I really recommend you warmly to make this decision for you. What can you loose? Nothing but you can win the sympathy of others. And keep in mind: "don't do to others what you don't want to be done to you" (in German that even rhymes and what rhymes is true 😉).

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4mazing

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Read a summary of some research on behavioral genetics today. It said all behavioral traits are caused by a lot of genes interacting (obviously the environment is a factor too). And that "disorders" such as e. g. sociopathy are basically just more pronounced versions of traits that everyone has to some extent. So there seems to be a spectrum.

I think the most sociopathic people feel no guilt or remorse at all. But you do, so you're somewhat sociopathic, but not at the far end of the spectrum.

4mazing

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Regarding dating, I find myself drawn to women who are less emotional, but I'm not sure it's a healthy attraction.

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4mazing

Regarding dating, I find myself drawn to women who are less emotional, but I'm not sure it's a healthy attraction.

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mrfoox | 258 opinions shared on Other topic.

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Seek help! If you really feel some sort of guilt, seek treatment for this behavior and thoughts. Talk to a therapist, ask them what they think you should do (treatment wise). You're not a lost cause if you're really serious about wanting to change this

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Laozi | 220 opinions shared on Other topic.

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It doesn't matter what you are but what you do. If you want to change yourself then go for it. You can always restart the life. Just stop blaming and start doing good.

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I want to amend things now and focus on doing positive things. I've realized that when doing all that, I was hurting myself too. It did me no good either.
Laozi

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Correct. Stop dwelling in the past. And start doing little good everyday.

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Asker

I want to amend things now and focus on doing positive things. I've realized that when doing all that, I was hurting myself too. It did me no good either.

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Laozi

Correct. Stop dwelling in the past. And start doing little good everyday.

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Daniel3035 | 449 opinions shared on Other topic.

Yoda

I mean well nearly everyones a sociopath then. Besides the lizards which isn't really a sociopathic tendency more experimentation as a child you won't understand the concept of torture etc it's more a survival mechanism how do I cook? Practice and learn body parts what to eat and what not.

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Dchrls78104 | 1.5K opinions shared on Other topic.

Guru

I have stated time and again on here that people with certain personal issues who are desirous of getting into romantic relationships should first have done the necessary work to improve themselves, even if it includes getting and benefitting from professional help. From what you are saying, yours seems to qualify.

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YHL6965 | 1.8K opinions shared on Other topic.

Guru

No, you can keep your lies and your taste for drama, especially if you're the one stirring it. On the bright side, you are aware of it which is a good sign. I would suggest you go to therapy because I can see this ruining 99% of your relationships.

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I ruined the relationship between my mother and boyfriend long ago. If my mother had a couple suggestions or negative comments about him, I would tell him everything, which obviously made him dislike my mother.
Then I used to talk negative about my boyfriend to my mother and elaborate things he never said, which made her hate him even more than ever and the situation got worse.
Asker

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Then every single time my boyfriend and I had a silly argument, I would elaborate the version and talk smack about him to my parents, ruining their stance towards him even more.
Asker

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I ended up harming myself in the process because my now, my boyfriend has no intention of visiting me in their house, coming to a house where he's hated. He doesn't feel comfortable. I basically screwed it all on purpose to them get into this neverending drama, which I'm trying to amend everything now.
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YHL6965

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Where is the appeal in creating so much hatred and negativity around you like that?
Asker

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Sometimes I believe it was to be the center of attention and an ''oh whatever, he's hated, let them hate him more, that way I'll have a reason to fight for our love'' attitude I had.
Asker

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I used to do that in anger, esp when I had an uncontrollable rage/resentment.
YHL6965

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I highly suggest you therapy because you're basically destroying people around you and you know that it affects you afterwards too.

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Asker

I ruined the relationship between my mother and boyfriend long ago. If my mother had a couple suggestions or negative comments about him, I would tell him everything, which obviously made him dislike my mother.
Then I used to talk negative about my boyfriend to my mother and elaborate things he never said, which made her hate him even more than ever and the situation got worse.

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Asker

Then every single time my boyfriend and I had a silly argument, I would elaborate the version and talk smack about him to my parents, ruining their stance towards him even more.

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Asker

I ended up harming myself in the process because my now, my boyfriend has no intention of visiting me in their house, coming to a house where he's hated. He doesn't feel comfortable. I basically screwed it all on purpose to them get into this neverending drama, which I'm trying to amend everything now.

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YHL6965

Where is the appeal in creating so much hatred and negativity around you like that?

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Asker

Sometimes I believe it was to be the center of attention and an ''oh whatever, he's hated, let them hate him more, that way I'll have a reason to fight for our love'' attitude I had.

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Asker

I used to do that in anger, esp when I had an uncontrollable rage/resentment.

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YHL6965

I highly suggest you therapy because you're basically destroying people around you and you know that it affects you afterwards too.

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Peuples_Francs | 69 opinions shared on Other topic.

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I could handle it, I'm sure, but I'm not stupid enough to bother. Not when there are other options.

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BrexitAteMyLobster

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You don't sound like a sociopath, no. You have some issues but some of it is clearly just the need for attention.

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SomeGuyCalledTom | 183 opinions shared on Other topic.

Yoda

Get therapy. Anything else is just kidding yourself.

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DOGMA1954

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Yes. send me a message and I will talk with you private about it.

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I added an update.
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I can't. It says you only allow private message from followings.
DOGMA1954

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Sorry about that. I have now changed that. Feel free to chat if you like.
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ok cool. Thanks
I just sent you a message

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I added an update.

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Asker

I can't. It says you only allow private message from followings.

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DOGMA1954

Sorry about that. I have now changed that. Feel free to chat if you like.

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Asker

ok cool. Thanks
I just sent you a message

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Shortfuse73

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Probably, if you truly are remorseful and want to change. Changing something like that isn't impossible but it's extremely hard.

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Shamalien | 482 opinions shared on Other topic.

Yoda

You’re a secondary psychopath, u have the ability to heal if you really want to. That lizard shit is really fkd up I hope u feel guilty

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Agape93 | 3.3K opinions shared on Other topic.

Master

You’re not a sociopath. You just have issues.

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Interesting. I've acted out of impulse and anger several times and in that moment proceeded without guilt. Then after a while and not willing to go too far, I did felt bad.
I guess I need to seek help.

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Asker

Interesting. I've acted out of impulse and anger several times and in that moment proceeded without guilt. Then after a while and not willing to go too far, I did felt bad.
I guess I need to seek help.

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Ripper_E | 1.4K opinions shared on Other topic.

Guru

I think I would reject you and feel nothing.

I'm a mild-moderate sociopath, would you be able to handle that?

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