I didn't want to risk too much info tainting people's opinions.Now what if I said this is a response to a political topic post at the end of a very long rant explaining every way in which I am wrong in their opinion (without reading the article), they have commented similarly multiple times, and it is my brother.
Not too bad, sounds cool to me:) You kept your cool and don't sound triggered or similar. If it is kind of "competition" to you both (which I find wrong, but nevermind), then you kinda more won than lost at least for the while before their next comment and at least under disregarding what the previous comments from you and from them were, lol.
Yeah, we've never exactly had a healthy relationship. lol He claims often enough *recently* that he cares about me, but it is hard to accept that. We both have relatively high "innocence complexes", I'm just not so sure how aware he is of his.I may have been factually correct in the post and he quickly conceded to his misunderstanding, but I lost the battle in a sense because I perhaps got much more defensive about this comment he made than I should have. I personally felt that after him making 3 comments highlighting every way in which what I posted was (in his opinion) wrong, this comment was the little extra salt on an already open "wound" to my intelligence and that it was overall unnecessary and purposefully insulting. The worst part to me is that he doesn't even seem to be aware of how much little extra cherries on top like that aren't necessary and made specifically for the purpose of publicly mocking the sister that he claims to care about and want to reconnect with so much.
In that context I would say he wins. Clearly his strategy wasn’t to debate based on facts but his goal was to get you emotional and on the defensive. Based on what your response is he got what he was looking for. Politically his facts could be garbage, but in a debate he would be the winner by getting in your head.
That's true. I have a tendency to get defensive. I was able to easily refute every discrepancy he had on the topic because he hypocritically neglected to think it through as he was claiming of me.I've told and shown him this myself that I am perfectly fine with admitting when I am wrong, even if begrudgingly. I only get defensive when he oversteps a line, adding salt to the wound he already opened by mentioning "faults" he sees and then because refuting a point isn't clearly enough continuing to blatantly deride my intelligence with sneering comments like this and worse.
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