I have low self-esteem also and have never gotten pleasure from doing this.
Because you probably are not selfish
You're right about that.
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Yes, it's definitely exhausting! You gave some good tips on how to deal with this type of person. I usually try to ignore it myself, to not involve myself in an argument, but maybe I should try getting into a conversation with them about it.
Thanks. 😊 I'm practicing this myself. It's healthier to express what you actually feel towards their words. I think talking out help both parts grow, and understand each other better.
Most psychopaths and sociopaths are VERY good at charming people and also at appearing normal and blending into society.
Their amazing which is scary. I sometimes felt envious of them. They never feel regret, guilt or trepidation about their actions do to others unless it hurts their game somehow
That explains it very well, thanks. I never thought of it as trying to take away something good that someone else has.
No problem! I've unfortunately learned this from experience with so-called "friends" who couldn't stand to see anything make me happy when they were miserable with their lives, but refused to do anything about it.
Miserable people are so hard to be around. People who are content with themselves are much more fun to be around.
It does take a lot of selfishness to put someone else in pain just to uplift themself.
Yes, the way a person acts when having power shows their true nature, in my opinion.
Evil is a good word for it. It does seem that way when someone gets pleasure from someone else's pain. That seems like the true definition of evil. When people go out of their way to hurt someone, that seems like true evil to me.
It seems like true evil to me too
I've actually always felt like I have low self-esteem. But doing this has never made me happy.
I guess it comes down to how you cope with insecurity hehe. i mean when i talk negatively about people to make me feel better, it doesn't particularly make me happy. i just feel like i am able to be less harsh about myself when i feel insecure
I was always put down by my family, but I get no pleasure from hurting others.
Jealousy seems like a big part of the reason.
@Flower7 Yes I agree
I agree that this type of behavior is very cruel.
I have low self-esteem myself, but get no pleasure from doing this.
Do you mean that narcissists idolize the person that they are putting down?
@Flower7 yup :)
That does seem like it's true because a lot of the people who have talked down to me also copy everything I do.
Yeah, it really is!