Am I overthinking about the situation?

Question

My folks have been separated for 7 years now and i stay with dad and only recently i came to know he is bisexual which i am totally fine with and we even discussed about it. I also came to know about a partner of his and i met him and i know the guy as well. He is a colleague from work who often comes to our house. Recently he spent a few days with us anf in that he expressed that he really was into me and stuff. And he was honeat about everything and he even told dad that he found me very attractive but he just spoke his mind and won't cause any trouble and he hasn't. Its very normal but should i keep my distance from him or i am overthinking about it as he is dad's partner. We watched tv and moviea together and even went out for movies and stayed late talking and all as he is very friendly and sincere and we are good friends thougg he is just 6 years younger than dad. But after he told me and dad about how he felt about me i distanced a bit from him till last night when i again watched a movie with him like before.. Am i overthinking and all?

Answer 1

AEther

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hm, that does seem strange. can't really tell much without knowing the guy or the situation, but if nothing else than to provide counter point...

i have a gay adopted father (not legally, i left home and was taken in, long story, but whatever, gay father figure) and occasionally when i would meet some of his older gay friends, they would say what a "beautiful young man" i was, and make vaguely flirty compliments my way. i was once told i would "make a fortune selling my body in london".. i think they felt comfortable doing this because the fact that i was straight and far too young made it humorously absurd, and making me slightly uncomfortable was part of the fun. it was all in good fun and never stepped over the line, and i certainly never felt in any danger, perhaps in part because there was such farce made of the absurdity

personally, i would say there's a difference in power dynamic between a older gay man making a young herto blush for funsies, and a man making a young woman uncomfortable, since a young woman being leered at doesn't have the same merit of novelty..
but still, it may just be the case of saying "ur daughter's hot lol" just being silly humorous way of laying the matter at rest rather than anything else

Answer 2

Apope16 | 223 opinions shared on Other topic.

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First, let's face it. You are sexy. So there will be men and women who will be horny to be with you. That is not your fault. But just be aware of that and not naive to the fact that you are a hot girl. If it seems like someone is hitting on your or flirting then they probably are in your case.

With that said, no, I don't think you are over thinking. This dude seems a bit creepy to be honest. I think you should keep away from him. What the heck is going on? This guy is going to give your dad a BJ and then have sex with you? The whole thing is insane and ripe for drama that could lead to trauma for you later down the road.

My hunch however is that you are sexually attracted to this guy. I would be careful with that. Get on the dating scene. Find a new boy toy distraction. I would also have a private conversation to your dad about how you feel his "friend" is coming on to you to and that boundaries are needed. What's up with your father anyway? He is supposed to be protective of his daughter. This is insane really.

Answer 3

CassaBlanca

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Is this a troll question?

If its not,

That dude is weird guy. Why would anyone disclose to their partners kid that they are attracted to them? What's the purpose even? Except to make everyone around them uncomfortable.

Stay away from him and your dad should dump his ass. Roving eyes are not good in any relationship.

Answer 4

Mark83

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It's a bit strange of him to say that. You're all adults but it feels inappropriate, and if he acted on it it would be very disrespectful of your dad (and probably at least somewhat disturbing for you and your dad).

But really all that matters is that it made you uncomfortable. That's a fact so there's nothing to overthink. So if he does it again let him know - if he's the decent guy you're describing him as, he'll keep his distance.

Answer 5

bowenw

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It seems a little creepy for him to tell your dad he thinks you are attractive. Hopefully he just meant it as a complement and nothing more. I'd keep an eye on him. You certainly don't want to mislead the guy that you are into him or make your dad jealous.

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AdithyaR | 213 opinions shared on Other topic.

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Well ots totally understandable that you'd distance yourself from him.
Irrespective of whether he's gonna act on his attraction or not (which I feel like he won't) it's perfectly fine for you to feel uncomfortable. So you do what makes you comfortable, I'm sure he and your father will be able to understand how you feel.

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EaterPeter

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No, you are not over thinking. Our brains are monkey brains. They love to hop around. Especially whenever we get slight hint of attraction or not. I would say stay away from him. I feel like you are attracted to him. There are some people I am attracted to and when I find myself with them in situation. I simmer so bad. You know what I mean?

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Kaamraj

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You're not overthinking the situation as it is an odd place to be in. I'd say that he should not have disclosed his feelings for you because it'd only make things weird as he's involved with your father. Keep doing what you're doing, that being friendly but not much involved. Most men have sexual attraction towards some of their friends and colleagues, but if they're getting enough sex in their lives, it doesn't interfere with their relations and behaviour with them.

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Vickykog

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I don't think so that you are overthinking on this situation it's very obvious after that you know what's there in his mind, but at the same time you are still there with him watching movies and all that means you are okay to be with him from your mind but keeping distance by physical appearance so it's okay to be in such situations for some time you will get the answer on your own you just need some time that's what I feel...

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Carson_3

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Does sound like a confusing situation. I’d keep my distance when your dad isn’t around. When dad is there, hang out and have fun but if the idea makes you uncomfortable, then keep your distance when alone.

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Rocky143143143

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It depends as... if u think moveing close to him make distance between them then it's not over think... but even after u know that that won't anything on therw relationship then yes

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chriscdi | 2.3K opinions shared on Other topic.

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well if you aren't interested back then thats all well and good but as long as he isn't trying to do anything inappropriate without your consent then its fine, no need to avoid this guy simply cause he likes you.

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Answer 19

Synikal

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No need to overthink. If you simply feel at ease with him then leave it at that. If you are uncomfortable around him, then let it be known and move on. The real question since he already let it be known where he stands is how do you feel? More of a questioning of self than asking if you're overthinking. Simply said figure out how you feel about it and move on from there.

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Tstrbrainer | 232 opinions shared on Other topic.

Explorer

If you don't like him back, maybe you can be careful that you don't give him any hints.

As long as he is not behaving creepily, it's fine

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joeldalton | 254 opinions shared on Other topic.

Yoda

Not overthinking at all. he wants to fuck your dad and you.

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Surely | 270 opinions shared on Other topic.

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You are probably spot on.
Follow your instincts.

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Answer 25

nudeNhorny | 58 opinions shared on Other topic.

Guru

No you are not overthinking, since he is your dad's partner, he shouldn't show any sign of interest in you, it's disrespectful to both you and your dad, he should be more decent.