What is the best way to enjoy your 20s? Besides partying?

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So im 22 and turn 23 in the fall so I have like 7 years basically till 30 and I wanna enjoy my 20s as much as I can and hopefully accomplish some more goals and achievements that I've longed for and wanna live my life to the fullest since my teen years didn't go the best. For those who are in your 20s, what would you say? People in your 30s and over, how would you have enjoyed your 20s better?

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1 mo

I also dont want casual sex.. i want my first time to mean something and be with a guy im in a committed relationship with since im still a virgin and I value sex and dont see it as just a physical thing.

Answer 1

ohshee | 732 opinions shared on Other topic.

Guru

You my friend are a very wise and smart person in so many ways,, first of all what ever money you make put part of it away not to be touched look around you and take the time to see and feel everything. We are all blessed and we don't know it take the time to help someone out of the blue with out being asked do it because your there in the moment and because you can smile more, take 5 to 10 min a day and dream who you are and who you want to become ,, always take a deep breath if someone starts to push ur buttons and they only want to see it there way , it's fine it will pass always remember when you wake up and start your day what you do and say is who you are and become, it's your choice,

Here's the hard one sex it's your choice and only your choice when you have it and who you have it with
I don't like saying this part but I have to be honest the guy you choose to have sex with probably won't be around in 2 to 5 years after. We all go through it we all have that dream of ever lasting love but for some reason some of us have two to 4 of them some have 4 to 8 of them and so on , anyway you said something and I wish everyone would read what you said sex is not just physical most of us grow up and are programmed sex = baby's and is something we do for fun and the skinnier we are the runner it is by the way it's all true ,, BUT YOU ARE SMARTER AND WISER THAN MOST EVEN ME AT YOUR AGE , some where in time something got lost and we were thought it's a sin if you have sex and your not married , if you do your going to hell,, well thats all i focused on i had to do it and I excepted I was going to hell it pissed me off the first time I did it because I didn't see fireworks all that crap and going to hell for something that wasn't that great ,, since I was giving up everything and going to hell I said I'm doing it again ,, and it was the same thing it was good but no fire works , wasn't fair I'm going to hell for something that wasn't all it was cracked up to be ,, the girl was older than me she wanted to do it again. I said ok then I talked to her about it she said it was great , I though well at least your going to hell happy, we did it again it was better but still no fire works, i thought about it for about weeks and she called again ,, i said ok but this time i had a plan I wasn't going to do it just to do it I wasn't going to do it for me I was going to do it for her and because i told myself last time, so let her enjoy it she was also moving to go to school it took about. 45 min. And this time I seen and felt the fireworks her mom came home so it was hurry hurry , but it was great that day to this day I have this drive to become it and as an Empath I've taken it so deep and having sex is so much more than having sex I believe it was for us to feel and see things it is a tool to teach us of who we really are, sometime I will go in to it ,, but you are so right it's not about being physical it's the complete opposite,

Answer 2

Andres77 | 93 opinions shared on Other topic.

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Explore yourself, your own mind, how you think. IQ tests, emotional IQ tests, Meyers-briggs tests. Get fit. It will serve you well in so many ways (you don't have to be a gym monkey). You are the entity within your body. Your body and mind are your vehicle and tools for navigating this life. Learn what your fears are. That's key... more on that later.

Learn a craft that will serve you for the rest of your life. Camping/survival, for example. Learn recipes you can cook or bake (Dutch oven) over a wood fire. Learn how to start a fire without matches.
I grew up in the north. I never learned to survive in the cold, I just went back inside. And the cold always intimidated me. Then the military put me out in the cold for two weeks with no resupply. My team taught me how to handle it. Now? Easy. No more fear. Adapt to any environment so nothing is any longer intimidating. Face your fears. Some are impractical but for those that you can, do it... safely. I've done lots of intense stuff... safely... and here I am. Not an adrenaline junky but I do love adventure and I won't let weather or inconveniences or difficulty get in the way.
All the above is prep.
What is your dream? What did you lie awake at night when you were 6 thinking about that you wanted to do when you were all grown up?
Do that! It might be a job, it might be having a skill, it might be visiting somewhere special on the planet. Maybe where grandma was born if you were really close to her and she told you stories growing up. Live your dreams. Plural... not just one. Start with one and know that you don't have to choose just one but you do have to prioritize. My mom is almost 90. Her traveling adventures are over now but she was busy until she hit 80. You have a lot of life ahead of you. I'm on my second career and now I can afford more expensive dreams.
20's... this is your prep time for the fun that will be your life. Perspective is key, hope is critical... your life is going to be fun and full of adventures.
Mistakes: loser boyfriends, getting pregnant before you're ready, listening to haters/naysayers that will bring you down, using a credit card and piling up debt that equates to being a slave to a bank, not caring for your health.
Build the foundation of YOU so you're better equipped to be and do what you've dreamt about.

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DizzyDesii | 3.2K opinions shared on Other topic.

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I spent my early 20s focused on college courses and getting a degree. I wasn't into partying but i had a good group of guys into me so that occupied me as well. It was a good distraction and made my day better. I’ve never been into casual sex and didn't even have sex again (aside from my HS ex) until AFTER i graduated college. So i say focus on your studies but go on a few dates from time to time. Enjoy some football and tailgates (if theyre even still doing that in a pandemic)

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Alyssa11 | 180 opinions shared on Other topic.

Explorer

In my opinion it's investing in yourself emotionally and financially. Also by spending time with your family and friends because most of us don't have too many responsibilities at this age :)

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Soporific-san | 145 opinions shared on Other topic.

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Explore. Don't stop exploring. Our bodies only get older. Hike, camp, travel... go to places you think you can't do. I do this all the time. Every other 2/3 weeks I go to a new hike I find on alltrails. I've been to Cali, Nevada, Utah, Arizona and Oregon. I met a lot of cool people and heard interesting stories from bars all over. Also pick up some nice hobbies to add in that can be done while traveling/hiking. Music, reading, sketching... you get the gist of it.

Also, learn. Feed your brain. Don't need college. Do research online. Read educational books at the library or buy them at a bookstore. Pick up new language, then travel once you learned enough to get you starting conversations. Go learn new cultures, take in new food recipes from different cultures.

There's so much to plan for that you can do at a early age. Yeah, drugs and alcohol make a great night. That shit also sucks. Its all fun until the party is done. Hangovers suck. addictions the worst. Best of yet, expect aftereffects. I got HPPD. Shits hard to coup without the help or knowledge on what I should do.

Answer 6

Spalliger

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There's actually nothing someone can tell you to do in order to enjoy your 20s, it's not like a checklist. I think the same logic applies to whichever age, do what you like and enjoy. I don't enjoy doing certain things other people do, but I like going to metal concerts and travelling with the partners I had. I'd also enjoy learning about things I like such as philosophy, composing music or exercising. These are all things I plan to keep doing forever, because I like them, so there's no planning to do in your 20s that you shouldn't try to do at your 30s.

Also, don't listen to those who say to lower your requirements to find a good partner or to have casual sex. Your values don't have holidays, it's nonsense thinking that one should have tons of sex during its 20s just because. Better values eventually lead to a happier and more virtuous life.

Spalliger

1 mo
By the way, I think it's implicitly understood in my comment, but I find it great your views on sex and the value you give it. It'll yield good results, I'm sure about it : )

Answer 7

Spalliger

By the way, I think it's implicitly understood in my comment, but I find it great your views on sex and the value you give it. It'll yield good results, I'm sure about it : )

Answer 8

Effably | 122 opinions shared on Other topic.

Explorer

New experiences I'd wager. It will be hard to regret trying things you think you might like. Sure it could be that crazy sex thing you heard about, skydiving, joining the weird local D&D group or anything you haven't done that you're not opposed to testing (normal logic applies).

I think sitting arounf waiting for the right one is one of the most common regrets people have. If that is you then by all means go find the right one. You know best what and who you want after all. Daring to do things like that are also very empowering.

Answer 9

Anonymous

never let peer pressure make your decisions for you, especially when it comes to sex and romance. Go to a party once in a while but set your boundaries, and don't make it a lifestyle. You wanna have fun and be social but there is also work to do.

The 20s are a time to decide who you really wanna be in life. Build some skills, or if you are a lady, look for a good husband. Like if I were a girl, I would make this a full time job, finding the right man, because you can basically piggyback in his success and get catapulted into an amazing life in no time, and that's an option men don't generally have.

gausslu

1 mo
Her question was enjoy, so I would say:
1) Smoke DMT/LSD
2) Have sex with people you like.
3) Buy an AR-15 so you can feel like a God who's above petty human-made laws.
Opinion Owner

1 mo
@gausslu rofl buddy if you wanna just enjoy yourself there are other drugs for that. DMT / LSD is no simple feel good experience.

Casual sex is the biggest mistake a young woman can make

And of course everyone should own an AR-15, but you ain't god and if you feel like god I'm very concerned lol. That being said, there is no such thing as man made law. It is simply an illusion, meaningless words with nothing to back them up, at least when it strays from god's law
gausslu

1 mo
Yeah, but DMT will make you a better person, dissolving your ego temporarily and letting you experience something greater than this world, therefore making you less materialistic and petty.
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Opinion Owner

1 mo
@gausslu shrooms is the only psyche I'd ever actually recommend to the average person, anything other than shrooms is pretty hardcore in my opinion and only for the real psychonaut
gausslu

1 mo
yeah but in this wild generation of a massive wealth of knowledge and thought with the internet right in front of us, intense psychedelics is the only meaningful experience there is that TRULY teaches you something new. the 21st century is developed both materially and academically/intellectually.

Women also become more open to sex and fun after intense psychedelic use, as you would expect.
Opinion Owner

1 mo
@gausslu psyches have many positives but the danger is that they make you more sensitive to influences in the environment. They were unleashed on society as a psy op to see how easily people would respond to suggestion under their influences.

Certain kinds of people can handle psychedelics and integrate the experience in a positive way, some kinds might not do so well. Also female promsicuity, the break down of the family unit, these are not good things. Women being too open to sex is how societies collapse into terrible ruin and that ain't no joke. Hedonism is a dark path
Soporific-san

1 mo
@gausslu Aye! Psychedelics are my thing! Though, shit has huge risks. BUT also the least addictive drug I know of. Glad you listed them, they are fun and mind blowing what you can experience.
tiptoe98

1 mo
Maybe men need to close their legs aswell. They play a big part
Opinion Owner

1 mo
@tiptoe98 at no time in history have men ever been able to do that so I have more confidence in women holding that line
tiptoe98

1 mo
Maybe, but it takes two to tango also there were times like victorian era were men only slept first time with a women they married today there is no boundaries at all. Complete chaos
Opinion Owner

1 mo
@tiptoe98 we need structure. Women have a biological precedent to be picky about who they have sex with so they make better gatekeepers than men. People shouldn’t be having casual sex period
tiptoe98

1 mo
Yes but men also need to have a little more self respect sometimes and not just lay with any fool they get pregnant then be suprised when they were lose on the streets and told to pay because they think they can get away. Men are intelligent sometimes more intelligent than most women so they should be picky about women they accociate with nobodies a complete fool here, nor are they children. At least I'd raise my future son to have very high self respect
Opinion Owner

1 mo
@tiptoe98 men should be smarter but theyr just too damn horny and don’t have a biological imperative to be discerning in this regard. In the wild if a man gets a woman pregnant thats her problem, see? This is why society built this structure around women, women are supposed to control when sex does and does not happen in a civilized society
tiptoe98

1 mo
Yet they are stronger often smarter and can run whole nations successfully through time, the world at their feet and your telling me there irrational and horny? I beg to differ but their the more capable sex in many ways so don't give me that. There was a time when even men had integrity chivalry and were noble and wouldn't disrespect any women by sleeping with then leaving her and the ones who did covered it up with hurried marriages because society shamed them also, its a two way street to keep both sexes in line. If women behave loose so will men and vise versa. What does it produce? this modern day madness of high divorce lonely deaths kids out of wedlock high suicide rates between men especially. No body is happy
Opinion Owner

1 mo
@tiptoe98 yeah both sexes need to go back to shaming eachother in my opinion lol like being sexual is healthy, just with one person and stay with then
tiptoe98

1 mo
Being sexual with multiple people isn't healthy or should be considered the normal thats whats messed up. Without all these inventions every women would be pregnant and all men who had sex would be fathers. That's my point, it isn't biologically normal do you think a society could run like that? That's why there's rules for men and women. Anyway its created women who give up easy and men who sweet talk dip and leave. No real men and no real women anymore. Self respect? Were
Opinion Owner

1 mo
@tiptoe98 yeah its pretty bad... I personally don’t engage in casual sex, and I’ve scarily found that I have a lot more willpower in that regard than most women XD
tiptoe98

1 mo
See lol your not as horny and uncontrollable like you thought. Can I ask how old are you by the way?
Opinion Owner

1 mo
@tiptoe98 im 26 and im a very rare man. I’ll grab some ass and titties hell maybe even a handjob but sex is too powerful a bonding experience to treat lightly and I respect that
Opinion Owner

1 mo
@tiptoe98 how many guys can refuse sex when its being offered no strings attached? I can. I am the only one as far as I know lol

Answer 10

gausslu

Her question was enjoy, so I would say:
1) Smoke DMT/LSD
2) Have sex with people you like.
3) Buy an AR-15 so you can feel like a God who's above petty human-made laws.

Answer 11

Opinion Owner

@gausslu rofl buddy if you wanna just enjoy yourself there are other drugs for that. DMT / LSD is no simple feel good experience.

Casual sex is the biggest mistake a young woman can make

And of course everyone should own an AR-15, but you ain't god and if you feel like god I'm very concerned lol. That being said, there is no such thing as man made law. It is simply an illusion, meaningless words with nothing to back them up, at least when it strays from god's law

Answer 12

gausslu

Yeah, but DMT will make you a better person, dissolving your ego temporarily and letting you experience something greater than this world, therefore making you less materialistic and petty.

Answer 13

Opinion Owner

@gausslu shrooms is the only psyche I'd ever actually recommend to the average person, anything other than shrooms is pretty hardcore in my opinion and only for the real psychonaut

Answer 14

gausslu

yeah but in this wild generation of a massive wealth of knowledge and thought with the internet right in front of us, intense psychedelics is the only meaningful experience there is that TRULY teaches you something new. the 21st century is developed both materially and academically/intellectually.

Women also become more open to sex and fun after intense psychedelic use, as you would expect.

Answer 15

Opinion Owner

@gausslu psyches have many positives but the danger is that they make you more sensitive to influences in the environment. They were unleashed on society as a psy op to see how easily people would respond to suggestion under their influences.

Certain kinds of people can handle psychedelics and integrate the experience in a positive way, some kinds might not do so well. Also female promsicuity, the break down of the family unit, these are not good things. Women being too open to sex is how societies collapse into terrible ruin and that ain't no joke. Hedonism is a dark path

Answer 16

Soporific-san

@gausslu Aye! Psychedelics are my thing! Though, shit has huge risks. BUT also the least addictive drug I know of. Glad you listed them, they are fun and mind blowing what you can experience.

Answer 17

tiptoe98

Maybe men need to close their legs aswell. They play a big part

Answer 18

Opinion Owner

@tiptoe98 at no time in history have men ever been able to do that so I have more confidence in women holding that line

Answer 19

tiptoe98

Maybe, but it takes two to tango also there were times like victorian era were men only slept first time with a women they married today there is no boundaries at all. Complete chaos

Answer 20

Opinion Owner

@tiptoe98 we need structure. Women have a biological precedent to be picky about who they have sex with so they make better gatekeepers than men. People shouldn’t be having casual sex period

Answer 21

tiptoe98

Yes but men also need to have a little more self respect sometimes and not just lay with any fool they get pregnant then be suprised when they were lose on the streets and told to pay because they think they can get away. Men are intelligent sometimes more intelligent than most women so they should be picky about women they accociate with nobodies a complete fool here, nor are they children. At least I'd raise my future son to have very high self respect

Answer 22

Opinion Owner

@tiptoe98 men should be smarter but theyr just too damn horny and don’t have a biological imperative to be discerning in this regard. In the wild if a man gets a woman pregnant thats her problem, see? This is why society built this structure around women, women are supposed to control when sex does and does not happen in a civilized society

Answer 23

tiptoe98

Yet they are stronger often smarter and can run whole nations successfully through time, the world at their feet and your telling me there irrational and horny? I beg to differ but their the more capable sex in many ways so don't give me that. There was a time when even men had integrity chivalry and were noble and wouldn't disrespect any women by sleeping with then leaving her and the ones who did covered it up with hurried marriages because society shamed them also, its a two way street to keep both sexes in line. If women behave loose so will men and vise versa. What does it produce? this modern day madness of high divorce lonely deaths kids out of wedlock high suicide rates between men especially. No body is happy

Answer 24

Opinion Owner

@tiptoe98 yeah both sexes need to go back to shaming eachother in my opinion lol like being sexual is healthy, just with one person and stay with then

Answer 25

tiptoe98

Being sexual with multiple people isn't healthy or should be considered the normal thats whats messed up. Without all these inventions every women would be pregnant and all men who had sex would be fathers. That's my point, it isn't biologically normal do you think a society could run like that? That's why there's rules for men and women. Anyway its created women who give up easy and men who sweet talk dip and leave. No real men and no real women anymore. Self respect? Were

Answer 26

Opinion Owner

@tiptoe98 yeah its pretty bad... I personally don’t engage in casual sex, and I’ve scarily found that I have a lot more willpower in that regard than most women XD

Answer 27

tiptoe98

See lol your not as horny and uncontrollable like you thought. Can I ask how old are you by the way?

Answer 28

Opinion Owner

@tiptoe98 im 26 and im a very rare man. I’ll grab some ass and titties hell maybe even a handjob but sex is too powerful a bonding experience to treat lightly and I respect that

Answer 29

Opinion Owner

@tiptoe98 how many guys can refuse sex when its being offered no strings attached? I can. I am the only one as far as I know lol

Answer 30

zagor | 2.8K opinions shared on Other topic.

Master

I normally would say travel and see the world, but with the pandemic you should probably wait a couple years for things to stabilize. Might be a good time to explore nature in your own country. And read some of the books you're always wanted to read.

Answer 31

iFarted | 2.2K opinions shared on Other topic.

Guru

Physical adventures like hiking. I know people my age and older go all the time as well but a longer more difficult hike gets pretty tiring and the body recovers slower as you get older so I'd recommend doing activities like that when you're young.

Answer 32

chHaynes

Xper 5

You could just go to the beach and have some fun go somewhere and have some fun whatever it may be I do believe you don't have to drink to have fun take a few friends and take a little mini vacation

Answer 33

portlandjason

Xper 2

Travel, getting to meet new people and speak their language, trying a new sport like surfing or skiing, living there for a period of time is cool too. I ain’t 20 yet but thats what I would do and have done.

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bklynbadboy1 | 1.7K opinions shared on Other topic.

Guru

You can enjoy it by doing whatever it is that makes you happy. Think about what you like and what makes you happy and get out there and do it. Don't be shy make it happen

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Tstrbrainer | 268 opinions shared on Other topic.

Yoda

Trekking, hiking, skydiving, learning, making friends... eating lots of stuff, travel to different countries, after proper research of course

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boggboss | 2.5K opinions shared on Other topic.

Master

That depends on what u want to do and what u want everyomes would be differnt

Answer 37

Anonymous

I would’ve liked to of dated more and had more sex while I was in very good shape during that time, done more traveling and more physical activities that are fun

Answer 38

Pulseofsulfur | 119 opinions shared on Other topic.

Xper 7

Do something that you'd never do before. Like doing activities that you haven't done before

Answer 39

allaboutyou2

Xper 6

Explore the world and other cultures.
It will give you perspective later on in life.

Answer 40

andy530 | 470 opinions shared on Other topic.

Guru

Explore yourself, your likes your dislikes the edges of your comfort zone etc

Answer 41

Anonymous

Traveling... sadly that's not a choice rn

Answer 42

SmolSlav

Xper 3

Travel, that's what I do.

Answer 43

msc545 | 889 opinions shared on Other topic.

Guru

Learn new things, travel.

Answer 44

CuriousMufuxka | 2.1K opinions shared on Other topic.

Guru

I wouldn't have changed a thing.

Answer 45

rebeliouse

Xper 5

sex :)

Answer 46

sjob2512 | 164 opinions shared on Other topic.

Xper 5

I am 20

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