4. "Does having a lot of guy friends and some girl friends show my lack of skills?" Whether you do or not doesn't determine anything unless your just making any and everybody your friend without knowing who they are. The question is are they, real friends? Or people you just talk to? Do they love you, respect you, treat you as a human being? If not, they are not your friends. If you are happy with a lot of friends or some, it's fine. But take CARE of your friends as you do your material items and pets. That's all. It doesn't matter again if you have a lot of this more than the other gender. You may gravitate more to one than the other, it happens. The same for girls. If you lack skills you wouldn't have any unless they again just don't appreciate you. So stop trying to "measure" anything. You have good people then what is the matter? Treat them with respect and love them. Because it sounds like you still unhappy with what you have.
@btbc92 I do have real friends they care for me when I'm feeling down or cheer me up. I do like public speaking and talking to random people.
Then what are you asking? You have what you have. Cherish them. As long as your happy with the people you have. You don't have to worry about anybody else.
Well, I was just wondering because I didn't really made any other new friends or people. Most due to the virus but I just want to meet new people.
So what does meeting new people have anything to do with the question? There is nothing wrong with meeting new people. But since you have the friends you have, if they come slow you may not get new friends fast like that. That doesn't work that way for you. And you have to respect the process of how YOU are made. It means you have an issue with something with self and you need to stop doing that because it's hurting you mentally. And it's probably blocking people from wanting to get to know you.
hmmm not the first part but people do say that they like hanging out with me because I'm funny.
There you go- you are a perfect example. Some people don’t have social skills at all though.
Yeah I see what you mean and probably most virgins don't but I do and I like talking to strangers?
Virginity doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with it
It doesn't sort but that's what most people assuonce they have been a virgin for a long time. They think that they lack social skills?
I guess talking to people about anything, or join in a conversation you overheard?
Listening skills are very important, and then there is verbal communication as well as non-verbal communication, then you have traits like tolerance, and assertiveness.So you mentioned being an extrovert, so this means that getting involved in bigger groups is not your thing, is this your case? One thing is being shy or a bit insecure, so you don't have much experience in most social settings and you can get a bit awkward but you still want to try and get better. That would be shy peopleBut if you force get involved in groups of people, and do "okay" in group but you just don't seem to really care or be interested on it, you rather do something on your own or with a person, one on one. This is more of an extrovert. How do you feel about these things.
feels, fine I'm not really shy to people, I think I can handle large groups. I do like public speaking and talking to strangers on train or streets?
Then, it sounds like you should be alright, a number of friends does not have to be something to measure. Maybe you are just more selective with people, which is totally fine. I for example, make a differentiation between my close friends, those I can trust fully and with them I share a lot more, mostly my time. and then I have friends, those I have history with and I trust to some extent, because I don't feel like sharing all about me with just anyone. And then there's the dozens of acquaintances.Trusting and sharing with men can feel different than doing that with women, if you do it more with one or the other this is fine, either way is your way. You should not try to change it just because it can look in a certain way to others.
kk, but I will go out more and go to bars, clubs, and just to people. :)
That's alright, just don't smoke, lol
kk, I won't.
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