Why is 'lack of empathy' being tried to show a problem which is only seen in men?

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When i read about gender problems on social media or internet, i saw this many times. However, lack of empathy is a common problem, maybe it is more in women or men. I can't know which is it, but i got bored of this so much.

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TurboKid

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The general impression I get is that there's a bias against men when it comes to emotional affairs. The more agreeable tone of voice might be perceived as coming from a more empathetic place than a more assertive one, even if the assertive voice is coming from a more accurate internal simulation of the other person's cognitive state as an example.

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TurboKid

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I'm also reminded of my father. He might not have been perceived as a particularly empathetic person with a big laugh and not exactly the most sensitive tone of voice. Yet he was an avid golfer and actually quite good (gave my uncle, who was a professional, a run for his money).

I remember when he watched great golfers like a Tiger Woods or a Jack Nicklaus, he would stand up and out of his chair and practice golf swings. It could even be in a public place like a doctor's office and he'd be practicing golf swings so seriously in front of total strangers. He really seemed to be getting in the mind of the golfers mimicking their golf swings and shushing anyone who tried to talk to him as though he's actually standing there on the golf course in front of spectators.

I really think that was a deep form of empathy; he seemed to be copying more than the physical motions and actually simulating, with some reasonable accuracy, the internal cognitive state of the golfers on the television. Yet it's probably not the type of empathy widely recognized as such.
NewGlados

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This is a kind of empathy. Its cognitive empathy. Some people think empathy is that helping or not helping. Empathy is that understanding people feelings and problems. Also It can be used in bad way. For example manipulating people which is like your father done.
TurboKid

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I get the impression that this cognitive type (like the type that allows people to pick up new skills quickly or even manipulate people) is widely unrecognized. Also, it seems to me like there's a general failing in terms of empathy across sexes but I seem to encounter it equally as often from women to men as men to women.

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TurboKid

I'm also reminded of my father. He might not have been perceived as a particularly empathetic person with a big laugh and not exactly the most sensitive tone of voice. Yet he was an avid golfer and actually quite good (gave my uncle, who was a professional, a run for his money).

I remember when he watched great golfers like a Tiger Woods or a Jack Nicklaus, he would stand up and out of his chair and practice golf swings. It could even be in a public place like a doctor's office and he'd be practicing golf swings so seriously in front of total strangers. He really seemed to be getting in the mind of the golfers mimicking their golf swings and shushing anyone who tried to talk to him as though he's actually standing there on the golf course in front of spectators.

I really think that was a deep form of empathy; he seemed to be copying more than the physical motions and actually simulating, with some reasonable accuracy, the internal cognitive state of the golfers on the television. Yet it's probably not the type of empathy widely recognized as such.

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NewGlados

This is a kind of empathy. Its cognitive empathy. Some people think empathy is that helping or not helping. Empathy is that understanding people feelings and problems. Also It can be used in bad way. For example manipulating people which is like your father done.

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TurboKid

I get the impression that this cognitive type (like the type that allows people to pick up new skills quickly or even manipulate people) is widely unrecognized. Also, it seems to me like there's a general failing in terms of empathy across sexes but I seem to encounter it equally as often from women to men as men to women.

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InfobotLives

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It is not only seen in men but is a supposedly a male trait as it is far more commonly seen in men. Numerous studies have apparently confirmed this to be irrefutably so.

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msc545

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I am a Psychologist, and you are very wrong. Cite the "irrefutable" studies or STFU.
InfobotLives

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@msc545 Lmao, calm down 🤣 Notice that I said apparently and supposedly, as in not fact. Learn to read, genius 👌

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msc545

I am a Psychologist, and you are very wrong. Cite the "irrefutable" studies or STFU.

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InfobotLives

@msc545 Lmao, calm down 🤣 Notice that I said apparently and supposedly, as in not fact. Learn to read, genius 👌

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msc545 | 2K opinions shared on Other topic.

Master

Because it is fashionable to blame men for everything. Ther OP should meet my ex-wife.

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NewGlados

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Yeah unfortunately it is true. Divorced men know this better.

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NewGlados

Yeah unfortunately it is true. Divorced men know this better.

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Anonymous

Because it is more prevalent in men
I should know as I am one of those cold, unfeeling and unempathetic bastards

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NewGlados

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Yeah maybe it is more prevalent in men. However, it is not only seen in men, it is too prevalent in women.

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NewGlados

Yeah maybe it is more prevalent in men. However, it is not only seen in men, it is too prevalent in women.

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Guru

It is somewhat of a stereotype type but i know i at least am the opposite of unempathetic

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Why is 'lack of empathy' being tried to show a problem which is only seen in men?

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