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I would simply opine that, "I can forgive but I don't forget" is not real forgiveness. It's a cop-out. It's really saying, "I can't forgive." Forgiveness must be sincere and whole-hearted, if it is to mean something. But it must be preceeded by a sincere and whole-hearted apology and expression of regret by the perpetrator, and and undertaking by them never to do it again.
@Keyboardkat Most people don't sincerely apologize anyway, so I don't expect anyone to do so and I'm definitely not the type to ask someone to do so just so I can hold power over them. I said "I can forgive but I don't forget" in the interest of co-existing, and seeing if it's a one-time mistake or a pattern or regular personality trait of that person. If it's a small mistake, I don't require an apology from anyone; I just would ask them to learn from their mistake and try not to do it again. But the question of "giving someone a second chance" implies it's something major, and a big breach of trust, like I said. If you take it as "I can't forgive," then so be it, but I'm not obligated to do so and have no f*cks to give on the matter of the othe rparty breaking my trust.