Basically, I'm 22 and he's about 40. It sounds awful, I know. He has kids too.. But his marriage isn't great at all and they're breaking up.
We work together and get on really well. I never thought of it as anything other than a friendship - we'd always just taken the mick out of each other and had a laugh! - but for various reasons I was upset about something and it was him I ended up crying to him and then I realized that actually, he's a genuinely lovely guy.
I'm worried that I'm starting to like him too much.. And the way he cut a certain conversation short the other day makes me wonder if he's thinking the same thing.
Is 18 years too big a gap? And the fact the he has kids and I don't want any..
There was a 17 years difference between my grandparents and they did okay!
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Tread carefully. Married older man "connecting" with a 22 year old is most likely for sexual reasons. It's easy for him to relate to you because he was your age.
I hear about older men in their 40's lieing about their ages online trying to contact younger girls all the time. There is no long term potential.
If anything, him seeing you crying gave him a chance to comfort you to build up your emotions for him intentionally. Guys know that repeatedly asking open ended questions to keep girls talking builds up feelings for them. It's one of the tricks players use to get girls into bed with them and then drop contact with them.