First of all I want to succeed at my job and go higher.
Second I want to have a house that I would bre the only recent and I'll do what I want.
And third and honestly not so important at this age to find a man that will love me and tolerate me.
I definitely don't think about children and marriage NO.
And I am sure I'll succeed and I'll get what I want but I wanna do it my way not others way.
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Stop thinking in terms of Justice. The world doesn't operate on a system of Judicial Justice. Start thinking in terms of Cause and Effect. An analogy...
Say you're a really, really good swimmer. I'm talking like, Olympic level swimmer. And you start to say to yourself, 'You know what? I'm a good swimmer. I deserve a medal! Why ain't I getting a MEDAL?'
Now, the reason for that is you haven't entered the Olympics, right? You DESERVE a medal for your ability, but you're not getting one because you haven't tried to get one yet. Enter the Olympics, get the medal. "Buy the ticket, take the ride." That's Cause and Effect. Cause, effect. Not judicial Justice. You're not awarded them immediately for your capabilities. But, that's not your problem, here. Your problem is a much more complicated annal of confusion. What you are doing is;
'You know what? I'm a good swimmer. I deserve a medal in cycling! Why ain't I getting a medal in CYCLING?'
You get me? It's now got nothing to do with the fact that you haven't entered the Olympics, it's now because you can't cycle. But you, the talented swimmer, believe you should be rewarded with cycling medals. You believe that your exceptional capability extends to another, unrelated exceptional capability. This is called Cognitive Bias, and a lot of people fall into this trap. The truth is, your good behavior , your civil virtuosity, has absolutely no bearing on your...
In fact, what are you even COMPLAINING about?
You haven't even TOLD us. I don't KNOW what you're not receiving, here. I don't know YOU, you can't be abstract. What are you looking for? What is it that you believe you deserve?
Well whatever it is, there are no Good Behaviour medals here. It's got nothing to do with your being generally decent. I'm generally decent, I got diabetes. I got diabetes because I ate too much sugar, despite being generally decent. (Except I didn't I'm type one diabetic and I was born with diabetes but that's a really bad example so pretend I'm type 2). But you see what I mean, right? Being a good person doesn't entitle you to anything.
A good experiment for you would be; go out and be a totally f***ing horrible person for a day. Be the opposite of everything you said you were here. Notice how people treat you, notice how you feel. Compare this to your usual day-to-day treatment - THAT is your reward for being decent, you just haven't noticed it because you're decent by default.
You really don't put a lot of effort into being decent anyway, I bet. You're decent because you'd feel guilty not being decent. That doesn't entitle you to anything particularly special. Whatever you want, there will be steps to achieve it.
A good trick used by writers and chaos magicians; write down in no more than one sentence exactly what you want. It's called a vibration... Keep that in mind, as you go about your business, as you make plans and try to self-ameliorate. One phrase that sums it up. You have to know your Will as best you can.
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