I finally left her alone but its funny because I know that if I ever have that attitude towards her, she'll get all upset and start crying (it had happened before) why do I get the sh*tty treatment? I want to let it go but I don't deserve this, especially when I'm just showing concern.
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No...I know exactly what is going on. I'm in the same kind of spot as the girl. I have a really great friend who I am avoiding at the moment and I know that I have been rude to him.
I can laugh and joke around everybody else and pretend that everything is fine and that I'm not bothered - I got dumped 9 weeks before my wedding...nice - but the second that he comes along to talk to me, or trying and see how I'm doing I just can't pretend.
I think that it is because I made myself emotionally vulnerable to him and I just can't shut them down when he asks me how I am going. I avoid him and don't want to talk to him...because it just brings up the hurt...and the last thing that I want to do...is have to deal with it.
She probably doesn't want to burden you with her problems, she probably doesn't feel like she should be doing that to you.
Would I be correct in guessing that you guys are close - not in the sens of best friends (though the same would be true if you were), but I get the feeling that you chat every now and then and are quite personal in some of the stuff that you share? Not over personal...but enough that it isn't the kind of stuff that you talk about with others of the same gender?