I disagree with the way you represented Ghandi's quote. The change is causing a spark. A spark that helps others realize his/her potential...not selfishly behaving in the effort to make others become like you.
"selfishly behaving in the effort to make others become like you." - That is not at all what I or Ghandi meant. His quote is not about selfishness. And it's also not about MAKING others DO anything. His point was, if you want to see differences in the world, if you want to see people behave differently - then you behave in that manner yourself. (If you don't behave the way you want others to, then you're a hypocrite.)
Quotes are open to interpretation. I agree that this quote does not imply trying to make others be like you. After all, we should all try to be the best that we can be, and it means that if we want to change others, we first must change ourselves.
tried that doenst work :(
Well, I'm sorry. If you've tried everything, apparently he doesn't want to change.Don't listen to him whine anymore.
Here is the thing, he used to be popular used to hang out with people. Even now when I can get him out of the house once in a while he is very social and talks to everyone and is the loudest person around. But the whole part right now where he is spending weeks locked up in his house isn't healthy.I don't look down on introverts or extroverts. There is a limit to how long you should sulk before leaving your house and moving on.
All right. Now that we cleared it up, why is he not leaving the house? While he may be naturally outoing, or perhaps an outgoing introvert, is it reading too much into this business if we think that there is something wrong? Maybe there is something wrong, but him not leaving his house for a long time isn't cause for concern, is it? Unless you know for a fact that he doesn't leave his house for a long time because you see him all the time, then it's not strange.
I don't have time to see him much anymore but I want him to be successful. I don't mind if he stays home but he has grad college and he has to start working. I don't care where but he can't just sit around doing nothing all day
Does he work from home? How do you know that he doesn't go out sometimes, if you aren't there to look at him all the time?
doens't work it just riles him up to argue more till he gets something right and stays on that point the whole time
Doesn't work like that. So basically, you listen and then disprove everything they have to say. That's bound to make people angry.
Then that not really motivating is it? That's just people barking at one another, they never works... If one is trying counter someone's arguments and the person is just getting angry, then the whole poinytof the whole debate in the first place is pointless. I try my hardest to purely try to just talk about the matter at hand rather than point fingers at their point of view and criticising it without helping to them to fully understand. If they are angry, ask what you said they are angry at.
I know what you're trying to say though. As long as we don't push it, it should be fine.
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he hates his life because he is over weight, doesn't have a girlfriend, can't find a joband that is happening becausehe eats horrible foodsdoesn't want to go outand doesn't bother polishing his resume and applying for jobsso I'm not sure what to do, he barely picks up the phone etc...
Well bribe him then, if he's overweight, tell him to join a gym, the girlfriend will come after gym. Job will come after he wakes up from his emotional stage. Keep him away from junk food/GMO/MSG. He doesn't want to go out? push him to going out, you're his best friend for a reason! Good friends go to their friends' house and push their friend to make them improve their life.
Its not that simple, I have tried to get him to the gym for years it just doenst work. I used to go to his house everyday to try and get him outside but now he just doenst wanna do anything
whats really wrong with him?
the root cause goes down to how he thinks the world is against him in everyway and he doesn't want to accept blame for the way he acts
Did you tell him how no one is against him? Everyones life is tough...he needs to grow up
doenst help now he is just focused on that. and if things aren't his way his plan is just **** it and don't go for it
Ever saw NCIS? A guy named Tony always gets smacked on the back of his head, just for no reason. You have a reason, every time your friend says "f*** it" smack him on the back of his head. Thatll motivate him.
I won't smack him but I may use something similar. Thanks
i been talking to him about that and he doesn't know what he enjoys doing except playing video games and having a girlfriend to enjoy the night. but he won't go out and chase a girl -.-
I don't blame him - most girls are trouble than they're worth... but there ARE girls who enjoy video games ;)
Kidding. Keep talking to them and constantly bring up the subject they you think they can do.
yeah that doenst work I have tried hence I'm using GaG to see what people come up with other than kicking his ass which I wanan do
what you been upto I havnet seen you in forever :O
Ha, I got excepted into college :D yay for college life
nice congrats, I'm working its zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz. I want to go back to college life way more fun
You got a job?! Congrats to you!
i don't like it, I wanna go back to college and just play tennis, volleyball and go workout :(
switch places with me :D
No! Lol my turn to enjoy it :D
i didn't agree to this!
Sucks for you :P growing up is... Fun
say that when you are 70 :P
I wouldn't mind I enjoy playing dominos with grandparents lol
maybe you are an old lady already :P
and support by showing it , not just telling them .
i was thinking the same
haha I'm gonna die in my sleep if I do that
totally agree, best course of action so far, gl.
yeah but he is picky him self >_>
i been thinking the same thing