Why is my wife so jealous? Besides the nagging, she is starting to get quite controlling. We have only been married a year and I used be "ladies men" before which she keeps bringing up but she knew about that even when we met. Not to mention I did not do anything to spark any jealousy. Can it be that she will never get over it? What is the best way to convince her I'm changed and she is my wife now and doesn't need to be jealous?
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Sometimes people, despite what they may think or claim, think marriage is the end all solution to all the issues. Like the issues before marriage somehow magically go away after.
In reality, people don't change. The only thing that changes is they wear a band on their left hand.
I don't think you've changed. I think you made the conscious decision to stay faithful to your wife - a good thing, but you're not any less attractive or fun to be around now that you're married, are you?
Your wife knew other women were attracted to you before she wed you. You didn't suddenly get hideous.
She'll always be jealous. That's just her knowing she's got a good thing and doesn't want to lose it. She just needs to learn to keep those issues to herself. Now, communication is good, but to continually stress the same issue (that's not really an issue) is bad for a marriage. Marriage is hard when there aren't any distractions, let alone when there are.
You've told her she has nothing to worry about - now show her that. And she'll start keeping it to herself. Unless of course a time arrives when her concerns become valid. I don't see you having that happen though.1