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Okay i had your same problem with confidence but even worse, cause on top of the low confidence i had i used to think that i am ugly and i was verrrry shy around girls. thank god now i am nothing like that cause i decided to work on myself. Here is some of what i did, i hope u find it useful.
Before i start, the main thing u need to know is that u can't obtain confidence if u were not satisfied with urself. Once u r Fully satisfied with urself, ur confidence lvl will be OVER THE TOP.
So basically what we need to do is obtain self satisfaction, and this is how its done. First u ask urself and confess to urself (usually when we hate something about ourselves we try to deny it and thats dangerous); what do i hate about myself? and how do i fix it.
Here's some of the stuff i found out after i tried to be honest with myself:
1. weak character. I used to be bullied and put into embarrassing situations and not know what to do or act to it.
2. Fear, even though i knew i am strong (i've always been athletic) i had fear to face people especially the ones who bully me. When i confronted someone the fear overwhelmed me and my heart pounds really hard so i end up trying my best to avoid confrontation. which can be costly when u do cause u become a tool since people know u won't do anything about it.
3. very shy and very low self esteem around girls (the reason behind that is number 1 & 2)
4. thinking i am ugly.
5. not very social.
6. feeling not important. Because i had weak character and was bullied in school, i had no respect. No one cared about my opinion, no one cares what i think, if i try to say my opinion to class friends they shut me up saying or just ignore it. in other words, felt like SHYT.
There's more but those ones r the most common problems in males. Here is how i dealt with it (i'l continue in comment since no more space).
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