Do you lie or keep secrets from your partner?

Just wondering how many of you out there actually keep secrets from your significant other and/or lie?

What kind of things do you hide from your partner and lie about and what is the reason you do this?

  • Yes all the time, it's easier that way
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  • Yes some of the time, depends on situation
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  • No never, always honest no matter the consequence
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  • Other, please explain
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Most Helpful Guy

  • White lies and sins of omission are almost universal. We don't want to expose our darker, less pleasing aspects to potential partners, for fear of rejection. While there may be someone out there who is so compulsively truthful they blurt out everything, I haven't met that person yet.
    I'm a compulsive liar. But I'm also a lazy git. So I lie with the truth. That way, I don't need to remember any false facts. For example; I tell people I'm a sociopath. Almost no one believes this right off, so it seems like a lie, or bravado. However, there's always that slow, creeping doubt, and suddenly they realize "Hey! this guy really IS a sociopath! WTF?" But by then, I've either charmed them or moved on.
    So everything I say is the truth, but much of it is said in a way designed to make you disbelieve it. That way, I have my cake and eat it, too.

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Most Helpful Girl

  • I used to be brutally honest with my SO but when he couldn't handle the truth he would smoother me & falsely accuse me. Allow his mind to imagine the worst situations. Now I don't tell him everything about who I conversate with or who gives me compliments. Any interaction with anyone leads him to believe that they are trying to turn me into someone I'm not. It's unfortunate because I never thought I would have to keep things from my husband but now I understand you shouldn't volunteer all information.

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What Guys Said 19

  • Some things are really not another person’s business & when they pry or try and turn it into a big deal I may get secretive. With someone open and non judgmental I share 100%.

    Funny thing is that the people who pry the most always act like they share when really they lie/hide the most in my experience.

    Most people - I expect - lie out of fear.

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  • No well first of all im single.. but my rule or thought is once u lie its over its on the down side and will not last

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  • If you are in a serious relationship, it makes no sense to keep secrets. I do and would tell her everything

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  • No, it's much better when you don't lie to them or keep secrets from them.

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  • never keep secrets from your partner. it is better to deal with things in the open than it is to hide shit.
    things are always worse when you get caught in a lie

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What Girls Said 17

  • I tell him no matter what. I take the consequences. I had to tell him that my ex was talking to me again, and he did get mad about it, but at least I didn't keep it from him which would have been worse because wouldn't that be hiding my ex from him in a way?

    I tell him everything, even if he'll be angry.

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  • I don't lie, but I keep secrets that aren't mine to tell. That being said, we don't expect to tell each other everything (when its something that concerns a friend or family member that told us something in confidence). Beyond that, we have very open communication and are brutally honest.

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  • Lie never but conversations aren't really a playbook of everything that's happened I'll generally skim over the parts he wouldn't want to know to get to the humorous punch line. He does the same, there's no reason to tell people all the gory details

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  • The only secrets I keep from my boyfriend revolve around presents. Because I’m not going to tell him what I’m getting him and ruin the surprise. Otherwise we keep nothing from one another.

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  • I never directly lie to them, but I'll omit details sometimes or not bring things up. We value honesty, but I'll keep secrets as long as I don't think it's a big deal, and I know he does too.

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