I have never had an issue with someone that I'm dating or in a relationship with who wanted access to everything nor have I ever wanted access, so this concept is new to me. However, one of my couple friends allows each other to go through each other's phones as a "check up." Seems very distrustful to me. Would you do it?
- Yes, it is their right in a relationship to have access to everything concerning youVote A
- Yes, only if I'm around to watch them go through it.Vote B
- Yes, who caresVote C
- No, my phone is my privacy/boundaryVote D
Most Helpful Guy
It's a matter of principle. If the purpose is specifically to check and see if I'm hiding something, then no you can't use my phone. That's just disrespectful. If it's just because you need to use it for something, no problem.
I use my phone for little more than phone calls and checking my bank balance, but if someone wants to go through my phone with the intent to see if I'm doing something behind their backs, that's just tacky.1
Most Helpful Girl
There should be nothing on your phone worth hiding in the first place. That being said, I don't expect my partner to be insecure/immature enough to feel the need to look through my phone. If sthey have any issues they should be able to just ask me a question, not resort to spy tactics. I had that experience and it was annoying as hell.
Totally faithful, totally trustworthy and 100% transparent, yet due to his own uncalled-for insecurity he always bothered me and made me feel bad if I even spoke to a guy. It got so bad he would look through my phone/social media... find nothing, then try to add on extra meaning to messages that were completely normal. People that paranoid need time to learn what trust is. I tried hard to deal with this as well as many other insecurity related issues until I couldn't handle it... and decided to give him a forever break.0