My ex is posting and sharing nude photos of me and other girls online, should I tell his girlfriend?

Question

I recently found out that a guy I was good friends with and eventually in a short relationship with a year ago was posting and sharing intimate/nude photos of me on reddit and kik. I confronted the guy on Facebook and told him to delete all the photos. He said he did, but he wasn't remorseful at all and I don't know if I even believe him since I asked him multiple times before and he said he had.

I went to the police and there was nothing they could do, mainly because the only photo evidence I have is of him sharing the photos of me in lingerie, not fully naked, which wasn't enough to do anything.

There were images of other women on the profile who he said were other ex girlfriends. None of them looked like his current girlfriend, but I couldn't see them all. Should I warn her? I don't know her at all personally but I can see her Facebook and I can see she is a mother and everything. I want to because nobody deserves this and she may have been a victim, but I also don't want to make the guy mad. What if he posts more pics of me in revenge? What if she gets mad at me for some reason? But what if she doesn't? Is it worth it? I just feel horrible and don't know what to do.

Yes, warn her

No, stay out of it

Other

Select age and gender to cast your vote:

GirlGuy

Updates:

+1 y

I just brought up the idea of telling his girlfriend to my boyfriend (who knows about the situation) and he says I shouldn't because it will piss the guy off and make him want to get revenge on me. I was going to tell her, but now I am really scared about what he the guy might do as a reaction.

Answer 1

Cursewords_

Xper 2

Warn her and go to the police to tell this them that he is sharing unsolicited pornography. This is a huge break of the law and he needs to have a talk with a police officer about how fucking stupid and illegal this is. If those photos go on the internet, they will never EVER come off.

If the police did not do anything you can talk to a lawyer for free, or try another police officer. It doesn't matter if you are just in lingerie. They have a responsibility to bring him into the station and at the very least have a big talk with him. Take your parents if you don't feel like the police did enough.

Don't be worried about him posting more pictures. You need to screenshot or take photos of the pages before they get removed. Also contact Facebook or wherever he uploaded them and report the images. Select "This is a photo of me" etc. you can also contact all social media sites directly and tell them that you have informed the police that someone is sharing nude photos of you. They will remove them and ban him within usually 30 minutes.

React

1 Person

Asker

+1 y
The policeman said he would go to his address and see if he could talk to him and tell him not to do it again. It's been almost a week and I haven't heard anything back from the policeman yet. We live in two different countries at this point so a lawsuit would be difficult. The policeman said that he was technically allowed to share the clothed photo of me since I sent it to him, which sounded weird, but I don't know the law myself :(

Answer 2

Asker

The policeman said he would go to his address and see if he could talk to him and tell him not to do it again. It's been almost a week and I haven't heard anything back from the policeman yet. We live in two different countries at this point so a lawsuit would be difficult. The policeman said that he was technically allowed to share the clothed photo of me since I sent it to him, which sounded weird, but I don't know the law myself :(

Answer 3

dragoljub

Xper 5

And if you live in a civilized country you can also file a police report and sue him.

React

1 Person

dragoljub

+1 y
I don't live in a civilized country, over here you'd probably send your brother with some of his friends and they would break every bone in his body
Asker

+1 y
We live in two different countries at this point which is the main problem. Sueing would be complicated and expensive :(
dragoljub

+1 y
Then yes warn his girlfriend and tell her to warn any other girl he gets with

Answer 4

dragoljub

I don't live in a civilized country, over here you'd probably send your brother with some of his friends and they would break every bone in his body

Answer 5

Asker

We live in two different countries at this point which is the main problem. Sueing would be complicated and expensive :(

Answer 6

dragoljub

Then yes warn his girlfriend and tell her to warn any other girl he gets with

Answer 7

LeoZay | 92 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Xper 6

That's crossing a serious line posting nudes of anyone online, anything bad that comes his way he more than deserves. He needs someone to have a little talk with him behind the bushes.

React

Answer 8

Anonymous

Do what you would want someone to do if you were the girlfriend...

React

2 People

Answer 9

memyers13

Xper 5

I guarantee he is going to do the same with them.

React

Answer 10

ethan45

Xper 5

Yes go do that I wish they could help you

React

Answer 11

mikeymike__

Xper 4

You need to beat him up lol

React

Answer 12

JennieF | 415 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Yoda

Yes. You should.

React

My ex is posting and sharing nude photos of me and other girls online, should I tell his girlfriend?

Most Helpful Guys

What Girls & Guys Said

Related myTakes